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About myself: I spent over twenty-five years on the road, playing music professionally, tour managing and now teach private guitar, bass, keyboards, ukulele and voice lessons (as well as tutoring in math and the sciences) out of my studio (808 Music Haus). I still like performing the occasional live show as well (and currently play in a trio, an acoustic duo and even solo sometimes), if for no other reason to prove to my students that I still can. A year ago, I started cycling again (after nearly 40 years) on the Montour Trail and am really enjoying it--both as a way to relax my mind and as some great exercise. Am currently working on finishing my solo song writing/recording project (playing everything except drums--one must know their limitations). What I may lack in classic, rugged good looks, I more than make up for with intelligence, creativity, good humor, general knowledge, conversational skills, talent, life experience, sincerity, character, integrity, honesty and most importantly, humility (ha ha)--while not much of a "people person", I'm quite good at being a "one people person".
Mindset: I am very content and happy in my work, with my band and with life and things in general. So if THIS (my current situation) ends up being the rest of my life, I'm good with it--it's been a nice run. If I'm able to share the rest of my time with someone else, that might be even better. Either way, I'm happy--it's a great life.
Likes: music, intelligent conversation, healthy living, humor, non-linear thinkers, motivated people, hikes/bike rides on the trail, sunshine, fresh air, teaching, any movie with triumph of the human spirit as its theme, positive energy, truth, math and the sciences, songwriting and recording, accomplishment and achievement. Pittsburgh (Phoenix, Las Vegas and Florida during winter), coffee (ground from whole beans) in the morning, fruit, and freshly popped hot buttered popcorn.
Dislikes: so-called "reality" shows, human beings tethered to their (alleged) "smart phones", smoking, drugs, booze, the life and times of celebrities, mean people, those who insist upon forcing their religious and/or political beliefs upon others, insincerity, dishonesty, texting, excuses,"woe is me" mentalities--enough of that.
Aspirations: only to continue to be a positive musical influence on my students and to hope that everyone that I meet is better for having known me. This is less of an ego driven thing and more of a conscious effort on my part--to be someone worth having known. Mostly, I feel fortunate that I still am able to do what I do well and should be able to continue doing it well into my golden years (or is this already "them"?)
Type of person I'd like to meet: someone who cares for me as much as I do them. After years in night clubs, I have lost any fascination for that lifestyle (i.e. "one night stands") that I may have ever had. Weight proportional to height (mine is)--it matters. I'm not trying to be unkind, only saying that it is important to take care of one's self--sound body, sound mind. I'd like to spend the next thirty years or so being happy and making someone else as happy as well. Life truly is too short.
"I'd rather have questions that I can't answer than answers that I can't question"
"It's better to set your goal a million miles away and only go one mile than to set it a half mile away and achieve it"
"If you always tell the truth, you never have to remember anything"
"Best perhaps to get these false hopes behind one quickly"
"At this point in life, the loss of short term memory is a blessing" (my own).
Addendum: If you are some sort of scam artist (as in telling people what they want to hear in order to extort them--or otherwise glean finances), please do move on. I used to be a tour manager and so, have a BS detector far superior to most. While I may be aging and even a bit lonely, it hasn't quite devolved into desperate, pathetic or foolish yet. So ply your wares elsewhere, please--and best of luck, being you.
And if you've made it this far, thanks for reading (I keep adding to it--it's turning into the great American novel).
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I truly don't have the slightest idea--other than to let it go in whatever direction it may, and take on a life of its own--completely open ended on this.
I can tell you what our initial conversation will NOT be about: my list of medications (unless you find vitamins and coffee fascinating), my most recent trip to the doctor (over 10 years ago), most recent (or upcoming) surgery (nope--got nothing). More like sunshine, breathing the air, staying in shape, taking care of one's self and what I plan on accomplishing over the next 30 years! Hopefully, you have a similar story?
I work in night clubs when I'm not teaching, so anything involving drinking is a bit of a negative for me. I find that most people that call themselves "social" drinkers are generally much more than that--for me, it's "rarely if ever" (as in two or three drinks per YEAR). I'd much rather we were both clear headed--if we have to get loaded to like each other, probably not a good foundation? I'm funny that way.
And while I grew up loving sports, I truly don't have much use for any of it these days (I know, very rare in Pittsburgh?)--mostly I suppose, due to the sheer lack of any loyalty (athlete/fan) on either side of it any more. Would much rather do something where we're engaged with one another, rather than being a spectator.
Bring it on!