inkosi: Looking 4 Grounded, Smart, Pretty Women
Non-Smoker with Average body type
Dorchester, Massachusetts
54 year old Male, 5' 8" (173cm), Non-religious
Black, Aquarius
inkosi isn't seeking a relationship or any kind of commitment.
Bachelors Degree
Jedi Master :-)

I am Seeking a Woman For Friends
Needs Test View his relationship needs Chemistry View his chemistry results
Do you drink? Socially Do you want children? Undecided/Open
Marital Status Single Do you do drugs? Socially
Hair Color Mixed Color Eye Color Brown
Do you have a car? Yes Do you have children? No
Longest Relationship Over 3 years How ambitious are you? Very Ambitious
Pets Cat  

About Me
UPDATE 5/19/2017:

Just had the most bizarre interaction with a woman here who felt the need to message me claiming that I am 'catfish,' i.e. a fake.
I have no idea what her issues were, but if you object to anything I have written, please do both of us a favor and don't waste both of our times telling me about it.

Unless harassing strangers is therapeutic for your anger issues, in which case, have at it, I know that there are a lot of unhappy folks out there, and I'd rather have you lash out at me than someone close to you who might take personally what you say to them.

Also, please note that I am ONLY looking for friends, and I connect with people based on shared interests. If we don't have shared interests, I don't know what the point is of talking....

I am a friendly, sane, really down to earth man who is very candid and honest, which some people find intimidating or offensive, so if you feel that way about anything I say, then I guess you are one of the people I was just talking about.

I am very ambitious, which is good if you like guys who will probably never be broke, but bad if you like guys who will go out with you a few nights a week. Most nights, I am home working on one thing or another.

I have a very highly developed mind and am a very deep thinker. I am allergic to ignorance, so I despise most of what is on mainstream radio and most television. I enjoy live music by artists who stimulate your brain and booty at the same time, and often travel as far as New York for some good music. If I were to list my favorite 10 artists, Prince would occupy about half the slots, and Me'Shelle N'Degeocello would grab a few more.

My favorite film and tv genre is sci-fi, because I feel that sci-fi (and other fantasy genres) afford the writers total freedom to exercise their creativity. However, I appreciate quite a few genres as long as they are well-written and performed. I also enjoy satire, especially when it has a strong bite and pushes the envelope.

Since my singing sucks and I procrastinate forever when I try to write, in a past life I used to DJ, and now my creative outlet is writing computer software, which makes me an interesting mix of nerd and cool guy. Depends on what day you catch me.

I am also completely non-religious, and find that I get along best with people who are likewise non-religious. If you are really curious why, ask me and I'll explain, but if you are only asking to argue or try and convert me, please don't waste either of our time. I am also a vegetarian, and while I do not care what others eat, it would be really great to have more veggie friends.

I am really just looking to date, and do not see marriage as a foregone conclusion in my life story. While it is possible for anything to happen, I am most definitely not on a mission, but just looking to share some common interests and good times. So if you are on a mission, I may not be someone for you to spend too much time on.

When I wrote my headline, I hesitated for a while deciding whether to say I'm looking for a 'pretty' woman or not. While I expect that some will get pissed by it and send me hate mail, the truth of the matter is that while I have tried dating women who I did not find that 'pretty,' it was a losing battle, and I am wise enough to not keep fighting losing battles.

So while my personal concept of 'pretty' has found life in women of different ethnicities and skin colors, different styles of clothing and hair, different backgrounds and professions, it has always been with women who were shorter and smaller than myself. So just as many women like men who are 6 feet tall and ripped (of which I am neither!), I am most attracted to women who are on the short and petite side.

But while hitting my 'pretty' button catches the attention, it only stays if there is a brain behind that pretty face, and no matter how good you may look to me, if you do not have an active, inquisitive mind, it is not going to work. Whether or not you have a college degree is irrelevant. Whether or not you know how to think, and enjoy thinking and learning is totally relevant.

Same with being grounded. If you've got it going on, on all cylinders, and think that you deserve special treatment, or treat others as less than you because of it, then I'm going to pass. Vanity ruins the look of even the most beautiful person. But conversely, a beautiful woman who is as down to earth as anyone else is a super-duper turn-on...

Finally, I am also allergic to drama and anger, and lead a very drama-free and peaceful life. I intend to keep it that way, so if you have drama or anger issues, please consider putting less time into looking for someone and more time into working on those issues....

Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Anything that we both enjoy. But if the company is good, the activity is not that important.