I am a single dad with two kids! Well that usually scares women away from me because I have other attachments in my life.
I used to have hobbies like bump and paint work, engine rebuilding and actually building cool muscle cars. But now I have kids. So, I guess they are my hobby because all the other things I used to do are gone and my kids are still here? I do build replica guitars every once in a while, thanks Eddie Van Halen! Well I do still own 3 muscle cars and I get to visit them from time to time.
Single!!!!!!! I am looking for someone who is secure and independent. Someone who likes to take care of themselves and stays in shape. Not married. I know this is hard to understand, but I am not looking for separated,or in the process of a divorce or maybe you even just misplaced your husband for a while. I am looking for someone who is SINGLE! At least be sure your over your past relationship.
I am looking for someone who is well adjusted and truly loves my company, and I hers. When I finally find that in someone, I will have found the most beautiful woman in the world. And a desire to be happy is very attractive.
And I am not here looking to become rich by meeting someone, nor should they with me. That is a materialistic need and possessions really don't matter. I've lived long enough to have lost everything and people that truly love me have stuck with me. Someone that would leave someone that they claim to love when things look there worst really doesn't know what love means. I will always choose love over materialistic possessions. It last longer.
And I'm sorry, but I come with two kids age 14 and 17. My ex fled the state (Anyone know the song "All my ex's live in Texas"?). and I am their sole supporter and only parent. I am their security and they come first. Which also means I don't have time for dating a lot, and I really don't have time for games. Games seem to be rampant on the Internet dating scene. But that's where it all has to start. So let's give it a try. It is painless and could be very fun for the two of us.By the way, my biggest pet peeve is setting up a face to face date (which ends the Internet B.S.) and having a NO SHOW. If your the type of person that is so stuck on themselves that you would do such a thing, don't bother contacting me. Been there done that, don't let your screwed up life affect mine. Obviously my time is of no value to you, or anyone else you may want to date.
But, I am not over involved with my children either, we know how to enjoy our time apart also. They don't call my cell phone interrupting a date, nor do they hate every woman I may go out with either. We are close to each other and have fun together. But, throwing a baseball or football, playing kickball, soccer and long mountain bike rides through the woods and having bon fires are normal, frequent and regular for us. If that sounds like you could fit in to our lives, great! We will all have fun together. If all you want to do is hang around a bar or just do adult things with me. Well, that is not why I am hear. My life is too full of people I love to waste it sitting around getting drunk, acting stupid and waking up naked who knows where? I've dated women that work as waitress' before. I heard their complaints about stupid behavior as well as my own observations.
Oh, I'm about to give up with this stuff anyway. Internet dating has ruined dating! That's right I had the balls to write it! Bet you didn't? The odds are 98% of the contact I make and receive will lead to "NO DATE". That's 98% for everyone by the way. Most people handle their pages like it's a place to collect friends like on mY sPACE. If your a woman just post a cleavage shot or a photo in a bikini and you will make it on 200 guys Favorites Lists in a day or two. And I guess if 200 guys you don't know are at home drooling over your pictures and doing God knows what, makes you feel better about yourself, well go ahead I'm not here to judge you.
For those that write "I'm seriously looking", "No this time I'm serious" , "Ok, this time I am absolutely serious"... Guess what? Nobody believes it. Internet dating has moved on to this area of just chatting for a while and moving on quickly. It's like D.A.D.D. (Dating Attention Deficit Disorder) like when your out and your date can't stop texting people on there cell phone. This is a little better than D.A.D.H.D. (Dating Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder) where your date can't stop running around talking to people they know and forgets your there. Everyone knows it but is afraid to write it. I just did so I can expect nobody to contact me now.
So, if your interested, drop the texting, typing' crap and actually have a date with someone. I do better and am more fun if you can actually look at me and have me look back at you while we have a conversation. If you don't like me just get up and leave, go home and sit behind your computer and keep looking. After all if your cure for loneliness is a date with some guy 100 miles away from you, while you are both eating McDonald's while you sit behind your computers is more fun. Well, I probably would appreciate it if we could part ways quickly. And if you are more than a desirable distance from me and you think it might be an issue, don't bother. It's too easy for people to disappear after a long Internet courtship. Been there. Done that.
You can be anyone you type yourself to be. Hell, I'm a good looking rock star looking type. It's ok, the few I have gone out with know it's true. But I was told I was good looking by a blind woman who felt my face with her feet, so I have that going for me also!
I think I mat have figured something out about the Internet dating thing. It's too vast of a market for what everyone is looking for. Like a shopping site or Ebay or Buy.com...
This year alone I have had three woman that mutually wanted to pursue a relationship which began over the Internet. But none on them could ever make it to a face to face date????
But I know why now. Everyone is so conditioned that there Internet will be able to get them exactly what they want, they slowly pick away at someone in their minds to justify the reason they need to keep looking for Brad Pitt.
...Why is it so hard to surrender love? Where went the feeling that you can't wait to tell someone "I love you" after waiting so long to say it. Was everything replaced by the accepted fear of waiting all alone. To live, to die, all alone...is it that hard to surrender? After we are all broken, why is it so hard to love straight from the heart again? Why is emptiness better than pulling someone in close? To feel someones love.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I would like to meet somewhere and talk over a drink, eating could be optional. A walk in a park or beach. Anything where we can talk and get to know each other better.