If my list excites you then I'm the friend you need
He listens to you.
He accepts that he may not actually understand what you have gone through in the past, or what you are going through in order to enter the relationship with him, and he is well aware of its importance for you.
He is willing to meet your friends and family from time to time and to treat them with respect.
·He can give you honest feedback but is not critical of you.
He is patient and gives the relationship time to develop.
He has self-respect and expects your respect as well as respecting you.
He recognises your strengths and your courage.
He is supportive but does not want to rescue you or be your therapist.
He can laugh at himself and at life.
·He is kind and loving - he may have ‘off days’ but even then he is still respectful and caring.
He loves to be loved by you.
·He expects that you both have individual lives and want some time apart.
·He appreciates you exactly as you are NOW without any desire to make you change or improve.
·He is committed to his own happiness in life and takes full responsibility for attaining his own goals.
·He is committed to your happiness.
·He appreciates your support and does not blame you for his shortcomings.
·He is fun to be with, makes you laugh, and the relationship feels safe.
You can be yourself without effort, without having to prove anything, without having to earn affection and without fear of a BACKLASH.