*** Your first question should be... Is this guy just a douche, trying to act like a "player"? Or, is he for real?
To be honest, I am only interested in women, who are comfortable with a "poly-amorous" friendship/relationship...
A "player" would hide behind a bunch of B.S., where "I" feel that something long-term is only possible with genuine 100% honesty, up front...
Wikipedia has a basic definition of Polyamory. But, if you didn't know what it is, then I am probably not the right guy for you.
FYI... It's a RELATIONSHIP, not just a way for some douche-bag to try and get permission to screw other women...
I've been in several open 3way relationships, and prefer the "poly" dynamic (over "traditional" relationships).
What is it like?
First, you would have to be attracted to both men AND women... Second, you'd have to be secure about yourself...
Everybody knows how difficult it is to make a "normal" relationship work (with just a regular boyfriend or girlfriend).
So, imagine trying to mesh THREE or more personalities together! But, a good match can be 10 times more fulfilling than with just 2 people.
In a past relationship, it was like 4 separate relationships all blended into one (you & me, you & her, me & her, and ALL of us). Each person contributed different qualities to the situation.
Trying to describe what type of CHEMISTRY is most important, is tough. But, there are several things that seem to stand out...
* "SEXUAL chemistry" and trust among everybody (without mutual attraction, and a strong desire to please each other, it just doesn't work)...
* "FRIENDSHIP chemistry", where we can enjoy platonic activities together (going out together as a group, or 1 on 1, and having mutual interests to talk about.)...
* "SENSUAL chemistry", where there's comfortable intimacy between everybody, (It's not a porno, with us always having "Sex Marathons"... It's also about spending quality time, cuddling on the couch together, and sharing tender moments, and sensual nights together, too.)...
If you are still reading, here's a little about me...
I think I'm pretty easy going...
I have my own place, car, teeth, and job.
I have a "bad boy" side, behind a "choir boy" smile.
I am "open minded" about most things.
I can be a clown at times, but know when to act like a "grown up".
I have 2 tattoos.
I don't get jealous.
I've been blamed (many times) for being a VERY VERY bad influence.
I like action movies in the theater, but will usually wait for non-action movies to hit Redbox.
I enjoy having drinks with friends, but I don't sit home alone with a bottle in my hand.
I think it's healthy to have other friends and interests.
I am a gentleman in public, but I'm definitely not boring, or a prude.
I love all kinds of music, but can't memorize a single song.
I have a dirty sense of humor, but not "gross" or embarrassing.
I try to be attentive and supportive, but not clingy.
I feel that you have a right to think and feel, any way you choose.
(But, if you are judgmental, or intolerant of others... We just wouldn't get along.)
I talk a LOT, but enjoy listening to others also. (I'm rambling here, but I actually do prefer a "back and forth" conversation).
I am lucky enough to work from home (so my schedule is pretty flexible).
But... I am also a proud father of a 12 yr. old daughter. - I have joint custody, and shared residency (which means she lives with me during every other week). So, I won't always be available to just "race out the door" (some things are better planned ahead, anyway).
Things that I find attractive in a woman...
A "bad girl" side, behind an "innocent" smile.
A witty sense of Humor
Flirty by nature
Loves to Laugh
Somebody who enjoys getting out of the house (but also knows how to enjoy a lazy day just watching movies on the couch)...
***I will admit that I have a weakness for an aggressive woman. (If you are comfortable being forward, blunt, and speaking your mind... It's a definite PLUS!)
Here's a few examples of what's "NOT HOT"...
The "Serial dater" (who will just ask a different guy out each night of the week, just to get a guy to buy them dinner or drinks).
The "Wedding planner" (who practically wears a wedding dress to the first time they meet a guy).
The "Photoshop Artist" (who edited their photos A LOT, used something from years ago, or just used a pic of their friend instead).
The "Chemically Dependent" (who needs to focus on other "life choices", before meeting somebody, while being totally nuts on meth).
The "Hater" (who spends your whole conversation, bashing everything in life; their ex's, their bosses, their friends, etc.)
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I like the idea of a mellow first meeting, somewhere that we can actually "hear" each other.
I think it's easier to just meet for a coffee, a drink, or an iced tea, and relax somewhere comfortable.
That would give us both a chance to decide if you're "crazy", or if I'm a "duchebag"...
Maybe you have a laugh like Fran Drescher (The Nanny)?
Maybe I'm a Self absorbed, narcissistic, selfish, blabber mouthed jerk, who doesn't stop talking about video games?
It's NOT supposed to feel like an interview for us. We are supposed to be having FUN!
So if we get along, and laugh a little bit, while we get to know each other, GREAT!
The nice part of having a GOOD first meeting, is that we can always talk more about what to do "next time"...
Maybe even challenge each other to come up with something little more adventurous, or original?
Thanks for reading my "novel", drop a note if I sound interesting enough to get to know more.