Ok I'm noticing a big problem here in Toronto. A huge majority of girls think that just because they own a v*gina, they can get any guy they want and do it while having absolutely no game. What do I mean by no game? I'll tell you.
Here I am trying to smell nice and clean for my date and it completely insults my effort if a girl is a chain smoker. It smells terrible. You can go ahead and get a chain smoking guy but don't come after me until you quit.
I make it so nice and easy for my date. I don't do any drugs and I'm ready to connect with you as a human being. It's a total insult if you're making phone calls during our date trying to score drugs. That's not even close to being ok and you don't deserve to even be in the same room as me.
Demons in the Closet
I come to my dates completely free of any troubled past and I expect you to do the same. "Oh I can't go to the waterfront because I have bad memories with my ex there" This is not ok at all and once again it insults all my efforts to come to a date with no psychological trauma or drama. I don't like to compare my suffering to other people's but I've been alive for a while now and I've heard a few stories. With the exception of a couple really intense stories, all the things that have happened to me in my life have been way worse than most people's and I still come to my dates with a clean slate and I'm ready to connect.
I find this closely related to demons in the closet. I come to my dates with an open mind and free of any religious ties. Some girls want to have their cake and eat it too. I've been on a date with a girl who wanted a normal exclusive s*xual relationship but she also wanted to be devoted to her religion. When I asked how she reconciles the two, she answered that she feels terribly guilty every time she has s*x and prays for forgiveness each time. Let me say this right now. I will have no part in making anyone feel guilty, that completely ruins the relationship for me.
I'm so lenient when it comes to weight. I've been with a girl who was 5'9 and 180 lbs and I thought she looked great. Most of the weight was in her bo*bs and her *ss and I was so happy with that. She had a flat stomach and that's all I could ask for. I'm not expecting a thin supermodel at all. But so many girls take the weight thing to a whole different level. It's not ok if you say you have an athletic body type and just started working out 2 weeks ago. Its not ok to be 5'4, weigh 200 lbs and claim you have an average body type. I don't care how much women try to change the social constructs of what's acceptable, that is NOT healthy and I WON'T have it. It especially insults me when I'm actually in shape.
I've heard so many girls who are 5'2 and 5'0 demanding guys who are at least 6 feet tall. NO. Go be with guys who are 5'7 and 5'9, that's more fair. I'm 6'2 and I can barely hear what a 5'0 girl is saying all the way down there.
There's a huuuuge push for guys to get jacked. Do you girls even realize how much work it takes? I've seen normal thin girls start hitting the gym and look BARELY ANY DIFFERENT. But they think just because they're involved in gym culture, they deserve a guy who's legitimately huge and has been working out for a decade. It doesn't seem fair to me. I weigh 195 lbs and I'm not willing to put on anymore weight than that. 200 max. The worst thing I've ever heard is a girl that demanded a strong guy that was able to lift her. I met her and I could literally see her rolls even through her sweater. She was huge. I'd have to keep working out till I reached 250 to be able to lift her. How is that fair? I work hard for years and she just keeps eating. Once again it's an insult to me and it's an insult to men that work hard.
I realize saying these things openly makes me out to be an assh*le but I really am a nice affectionate guy once you get to know me. All I'm asking is for women to just approach dating with a little bit of game, that's all. Just put in the same effort that I'm putting in and I'll be happy. All I'm asking for is fairness in the dating world.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I like a walk through the park. Any place will do as long as I can listen to you and you can listen to me.