I haven't been on here in 1.5 years only to come back to so many of the exact same people I saw before I left. Are people REALLY looking for someone? All these people can't just randomly be back on here. The odds are too stacked against it.
I'm a Chicagoan and I still have rock-solid Mid-Western values which I'll never lose. I say it like it is, I do what I say & say what I mean. I'm blunt & honest and still maintain a sense of humor regarding this perceived insanity we experience daily.
So here it goes, ready?
I don't ask for too much. Simple respect, dignity and communication are all that a healthy relationship needs.
Know that if we are communicating, I'll be talking to you and not 2, 3, 4 or 5 other women at a time. I am self-aware, self-confident and respect myself far too much to levy that type of weakness & disrespect onto anyone else.
I will give you 100% trust up-front, it's up to you as to what you ultimately do with that.
I won't say & act as though I'm interested, then disappear and make up some lame & fallacious excuse about how you did something wrong, or worse, not even respond at all.
I believe that if you truly want to meet someone to share your life with, THEN MAKE IT HAPPEN.
Give yourself over to getting to know someone. Sometimes you'll be hurt and sometimes feel elated, sometimes you'll laugh and sometimes cry... There's nothing wrong with any of that. If you're not open to experience every emotion that comes with being a human being, you'll never experience TRULY & PASSIONATELY being with another human being.
I hope for the same in return from a woman.
If you've made it past that, we can get to the "stuff" that we can share with one-another along this wonderful journey of life & love.
I LOVE to laugh & make others laugh, being silly and joking about at all the "nuance" that life throws in front of us. Life is one big petri dish of a science experiment, pay attention, soak it in and laugh about it.
I'm a big fan of the lost art of conversation, this means actually talking. I'm not one for endless texts.
I believe in true love & hopeless romance, chivalry and respect for a woman, dignity and honor, without all the antiquated stereotypical gender role expectations.
I melt in the presence of a strong & self-aware woman who can run her own show and also likes a man who can take the lead.
I dig when she's open & accepting to sharing her life with a guy who'll return the same to her. Strength & humility, in other words.
I don't fall easily, but when I do it's with every fiber of my being and I give that woman everything which makes me who I am, I put my very life in her hands and trust that she'll always have my back, as I'll always have hers.
I'm honest, forthright, noble and honorable. I always tend to do what's right over what's popular and I won't walk amongst immoral people in my personal life or work life in order to benefit myself.
I truly do live my life with the energy, splendor and vigor of a child. Every I experience I have is an opportunity for growth.
I do try to "live, love, learn laugh & grow" every single day of my life.
I look at the World as though it's a remarkably beautiful place full of mystery, adventure and enlightenment, and I'm damn lucky that stars died for us to be here.
I find the beauty which surrounds us and use the "bad" to easily find solutions & answers to make things better—an opportunity for growth.
I give 100% of myself to everything that I do, whether it's work, family, friends, personal and yes, potentially even you.
I have a HUGE appreciation for people who are just damn good human beings.
I love life deeply & passionately.
What I'm ultimately looking for is that one woman who loves & lives her life whereby her beauty is defined by her confidence and humility, self-awareness and constant desire to learn & grow, her empathy, compassion & love of people while not being a sucker or pushover. That her (and every woman's) true beauty is defined by WHO she is and isn't, not what she has, wears, drives or what amount of saline, silicone, collagen or bio-toxin she has surgically implanted into her body.
In a nutshell, the easiest way to describe what I'm looking for in a woman would be: I'm looking for that woman who has lived enough of life that she's immediately aware of the difference between guy who's treating her with respect & honor because he's just a good guy and that d-bag who's being nice to get her into bed.
I'm just a guy who gives 100% with every breath and still holds out hope, and won't quit trying to make the World a better place for even one person if not more, every day.
Thank you for taking the time to read all of this.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
What I would find beautiful, in "us"...
That CLICK! That magnetism two people share, when others are just drawn to the energy & bond between the two of us? Yes, THAT! The desire to explore one-another in every facet, daily. Communication in boundless capacities. The trust that we can put our very last breath in one-another's hands and we'd both be completely safe, always. Crazy, fun humor, silliness & playfulness with one-another that'll last 'til we're that old couple which we currently swoon over. Two strong & self-aware people letting go of the BS that society dictates and just being together, loving one-another & sharing with each other. It should be simple, however, it's not easy finding someone that self-connected.
Let's just go have a good time & LAUGH, laugh until our stomachs hurt. Let go of the predisposed nonsense. Or let's do something active... and laugh. Let's go hiking, drink a beer, bourbon or sangria, jog on the beach, beach volleyball, shoot some pool, a concert... anything fun!