I am a woman who is firmly established in her career, is close with her family, and spends a lot of time with friends. Even though I am independent, I miss having a great guy to enjoy life with. (And my brother-in-law would kill to have another dude at family gatherings). I am not husband hunting whatsoever. I am fine with taking things slow; I am not in a hurry to define any kind of relationship. My friends and family consist of couples, singletons, parents, and non-parents so I feel no pressure to commit to anything but what makes me happy. What I don't want is just a hook-up.
Humor is a big part of my life. I am known as the "funny" and "entertaining" one of my group of friends. My style/appearance does not represent my tastes. Much to the surprise of my students, I love heavy metal music, horror novels, thriller television, and am always in search of that movie that can truly scare me (there's only been three so far in my life). And I am a Raiders fan. Have been since they were in LA years ago.
Even though I write fiction, I am very honest. Even online I'm honest. It's kinda sad, really. I am also very direct, so you'll never have to guess with me.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Meeting up at a wine bar or pub, hanging out and chatting to ease nerves, and then deciding if we want to grab a bite to eat, just hang out more, walk to a local museum or bookstore (there are lot by where I live). First dates should be planned, but have choices so that the most can be made of my and my date's vibe.
Make me laugh--you're in. Be confident but not condescending--you're in. And I really appreciate a nice guy. That sounds corny, and not the label most men want, but kindness and consideration go a long, long way.
Oh, and be a passionate kisser.