I feel like I need to start with this (because there's been a lot of confusion in the past): I'm interested in possibly building a relationship, not jumping or being pressured or assumed into one. In the past I had my intent as "Wants to date but nothing serious," but was getting a lot of "Netflix and chill" or fwb type of offers, but very few for ACTUAL DATES (PS I'm not looking for a handout- I can pay for my own dinner, who pays is not what I'm talking about when I say I want to date). And there's nothing wrong with "Netflix and chill," but it's not gonna be the context for the first time I hang out with someone. So I switched to "Wants a relationship" as my intent, it seems like after one or two dates (or even conversations) men have been very possessive and have expected to get all of my time/energy. And I don't like that either. So I switched back. So I guess what I want is to date with the possibility of building a relationship. But if you "need" someone who's always available, or if your feelings get hurt that I don't text/call/email back right away, I'm not your girl. I am not a needy or clingy or jealous person and expect the same from someone I date/have a relationship with (I'm talking about TRUST and autonomy, not promiscuity).
I am generally carefree, and believe whole-heartedly that smiles are contagious. I am not naive, but believe in the inherent goodness of people. I think that pasts should stay there (except the lessons learned from them) and detest when people ask questions they don't really want to know the answer to. I embrace diversity and trust that the only way to grow is to open oneself up to new ideas, cultures, and experiences!
And just a few more things:
I am not a prude, but I am a lady. Super raunchy pickup lines like "I wanna ride that thickness" or "I'm gonna leave a handprint on that a**" (true stories) aren't going to work on me (do they work on anyone?!) I respond much better to genuine, insightful questions/comments or witty, well placed sarcasm. Also, "Hi" is a nice start but I am much more likely to respond if you put a little more effort into your first message.
Although I generally find men with dark features more attractive, I am open to dating men of any color/race/religion. Despite being influenced by physical attraction (as most of us are), I really do care more about intelligence, humor, kindness, insight, open-mindedness, etc.
And finally, honesty is the most important thing to me. I can handle pretty much anything so long as it's the truth. No, really.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Up for just about anything but think it's best for a first date to be fun and fairly low key - someplace the focus is on getting to know each other but that still has some entertainment/distraction value.