Hi I'm Ashley! I
Sorry for the blunt headline but I'm tired of people only looking at my pic and not my bio and what is in here is important.
**PLEASE KNOW**-- I don't give out my number quickly and I'm NOT interested in a sexual relationship. I want a man that is after my heart. I intend to save any future intimacy for marriage so if you are looking for a sexually driven relationship, I'm not your girl.
First thing I NEED you to know before messaging me... I have a rare nerve disorder called Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy (RSD) that developed after a bookcase fell on my foot at work. Not contagious, just very painful. (Note this is why Im on SSD) RSD is INCURABLE at this time so as of right now this is a life long battle for me. As a result of the RSD, I also developed dysautonomia which affects my heart rate, blood pressure, stomach functions and more. If you are unfamiliar with either disorder, I'm willing to answer any and all questions or you're welcome to google it. I'll put a little more info at the bottom and you can read it if you're interested.
So... What am I looking for?
I'm looking for someone that isn't shallow and can see beyond my disability.. I usually don't have luck when I send messages so I do tend to let those interested come to me. You are the one that has to determine if you can handle what would come with being in my life.
Looking for a guy that can have a good time with me on the good days and get me through the bad ones. I love a good sense of humor. A gentleman that can win over the family is always a plus because I am very family oriented! It won't work if the family doesn't approve.
I will not settle for anything less than a godly man. My faith is important to me and it needs to be important to him too. I want to continue to grow in my faith and that can allow us to grow in faith together.
I'm not into the whole club scene and things like that. I'm very simple.. I enjoy having dinner at home and watching movies- getting to cuddle on the couch is always nice! Hope he will love that too.
Looking for a guy who can make me smile. I'd love nothing more than to find a guy that can make me feel those butterflies again. I am looking for a man I can share my life with.
I love sports (i did play basketball for 8 years) and I've been exploring a crafty side for a little while now. Have a question for me? Let me know! :)
So Mr. Right, if you are out there, please message. :)
MORE RSD INFO: I've had RSD for 6 1/2 years now. RSD develops in response to an event the body regards as traumatic. My particular case was that an unassembled bookcase fell on my foot. When you have an accident or Procedure, your sympathetic nervous system is activated and calms within 10-30 minutes. RSD develops when it doesn't calm. As a result, my nerves tell my brain that I'm constantly in pain. This pain is rated to be more painful than child birth, amputation, phantom limb, and cancer. RSD can spread throughout your body and as of this time, I'm affected "full body" which consists of my legs, hips, partial back and hands.
The one of the most frustrating part of RSD is something called allodynia. It is extreme hypersensitivity to touch. Therefore you can't touch the affected areas.
Accidents happen and I know they do, they happen all the time but I will never be mad at you for any accident that happens. I will only be mad at anyone that intentionally hurts me.
I have almost every piece of equipment and I use them quite a bit in the winter.
As of this time, I'm using forearm crutches to keep myself out of the wheelchair.
If you think for one second that you may not be able to handle this, please dont waste our time. More often than not, those that doubt their ability to handle it, truly can't and leave. I hate the disappointment.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I tend to try to keep it casual and relaxed so that no ones nerves are running wild lol.
We can hang out at my house to make dinner or we can go out and do something.
I'm open to negotiation.