I am an articulate, willful, educated feminist Femme in search of a butch/ftm lover for fancy outings, romantic afternoon strolls and evenings spent enjoying each other's company. After being quite cynical about romance in the past, I find I rather crave sincere gestures of affection.
The most important thing is that you be decidedly masculine, dominant, and willing to show this pretty girl a good time once in awhile. I enjoy theatre, music & dance concerts, reading, fancy restaurants, walks on the water (any water, especially since I'm now a dreadful many hours from my native Florida beaches!) and long drives into the middle of nowhere. If you know what queer theory is, if you've ever taken a Women's Studies class and liked it, if you're familiar with gender performativity, if you've read books about butch or femme or both, or if you think chivalry can be salvaged, then we'll get along just fine.
I'm a quiet gemini gal with a wide variety of interests and a wealth of love to give. I am especially thrilled by people born in fire signs and air signs, especially Aries and Aquarius! While I could be satisfied without an element of kink, I am looking for a safe dominant sexual partner, not just a companion. I don't mind if you're stone, and I'll gladly treat you to the best of my ability in return. I prefer STD-free partners and safer sex practices. Don't be shy, I'm not! Don't be stubborn either; be able to take hints in the bedroom - we'll all have a better time that way. It doesn't have to be every time we get together, but I'm certain that if we have a strong connection we will have plenty of time to explore a healthy sexual friendship. If you're interested in light BDSM, especially Dominance and submission, that would be my dream come true! I have been partially trained in my submissive manners and would love to continue with the right person.
I should mention I am somewhat obsessed with knitting and sewing. I knit lace shawls frequently, as well as socks and baby blankets. My sewing machine is a time machine that takes me to a world where I can wear fluffy petticoats, bloomers, corsets and capes without feeling like a weirdo. Cooking brings me great joy, especially when cooking for others. Add in a craft beer and some good wine and the physical affection of someone I care about and I'm in heaven. My newest activity is camping, which I love more than I ever expected to!
Ultimately, I suppose I -am- looking for a primary long-term partner, but I think it sort of jinxes a relationship if
you start out with that expectation. Having realistic expectations is very important to me, and I just don't consider "forever" a realistic expectation. As a non-monogamous person, I am always grateful for the time I spend with those I love, no matter how long it lasts. If you don't know about ethical non-monogamy, I suggest you do some research. It doesn't mean I'm a cheater or that I can't have deep intimate relationships. On the contrary, the quality and quantity of communication required to make such relationships work requires a level of intimacy that many monogamous relationships never attain to. Everyone's non-monogamy is different: for some people, having an occasional bedroom guest is as far as it goes; but for other people, it is possible to have more than one enriching relationship. I am comfortable setting goals and boundaries with my primary partner - whenever I find him/her! For me, non-monogamy doesn't mean I am not loyal. In fact, you will find that I am very loyal. I spent so much of my life bowing to what other people had to say about what is and isn't proper behavior. Non-monogamy is about my having the freedom to express love and affection in whatever way I see fit, in a way that makes sense within the context of my primary relationship.
*I am a woman of size. Whether or not you like that about me is not my problem!
*Butches or FTMs for dating, femmes for friends only.
*Have a classy style, especially for formal occasions.
*Please, for goodness sake, act your age. Ideally, act older than your age.
*I am thrilled when my date is "packing"
*Cancerians - I will break your little heart. Trust me or don't trust me on this one. You've been forewarned.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
A delicious vegetarian meal followed by a leisurely walk. Perhaps a drive up the parkway to enjoy the scenery. While I do love a big to-do, I'm also very thankful for simple pleasures these days.