My problem has never been getting into relationships, but simply holding on to hope even when compatibility pointed in every direction but straight forward. I am a man looking for that hollywood dream of the two that make every bit of sense. Unfortunately I'm already 38 and starting to lose sight. Ironically: if you combine my alternative belief in fate, with my tenacious nature, and the presumption that everything would come together when I thought it should, you come up with the old single man I am.
I want a family and always have. I have two younger brothers and both are ahead of me now. I want everything from the coverpage of the relationship without the fine print. I am a very laid back person and have every reason to be humble. The detail hidden in the fine print is not what scares me. It's the lack of confidence in oneself to keep it in the readable area. I believe that with an honest approach and the ability to admit fault, no struggle is impossible to move past. With a lack in either one of these, damns come up.
I enjoy doing just about anything, the company is the more important factor. If it's something I have not done or even a food I haven't tried yet, I want too. I play a lot of softball with guys who wish they were still playing baseball, watch a lot of sports, and always enjoy time spent with friends and family whether getting food together or making our best version what we like best. I appreciate the down times in between with a good movie and couch time, and I won't settle for holding hands, unless the fingers are moving, finger massages are on. I think simple intamacy is very important.
Goals in life are usually oriented around money. I'm a carpenter and do have aspirations for further opportunities, but have never graded my quality of life according to excess of things I have accumulated but don't need.
I love all music really. I grew up on rock and country but find myself listening to soft rock stations anymore. I can appreciate any music with a motive and really wish I knew more about classical music. I love everything about music and can honestly say at the same time that I really love: Zach Brown, Garth Brooks, David Allen Coe, Bob Seager, Elton John, the Beatles, Janis Joplin, Bob Dylan, Matchbox 20, System of the Down, Three days Grace, John Bon Jovi, Tu-pac, and M&M. Once everyone else see's just how great they are, Modest Mouse, may be the best band of our time. Jack White may claim some of that glory, but has not earned it yet, but still mentioned because of the potential.
I should also mention that I do spend a lot of time watching sports. My favorite time of year is the spring, when the weather is perfect to work in, the colors of nature are all slowly aspiring, and baseball is finally back again. I'm a huge Cubs fan and always have been. One of my favorite people of all time is Ron Santo, he will be missed dearly. After baseball, and just in time, is football. I am a Bears fan, but my favorite football team is actually the Hawkeyes. I love the Saturday games and the energy of college ball a bit more, but still also love watching the Bears as well. I'm not one of those guys who has to watch sports all the time if the TV's on, in fact I only watch my teams or news that pertains to them specifically, otherwise I'd rather watch something else. After football I slow down. I watch a little Hawkeye basketball but its been brutal lately and pro basketball is horrible until the playoffs.
I just thought it would be more appropriate to throw that out there then to leave a surprise. Activities, weekend plans, and friend gatherings, with me, revolve around sports quite often, and if your into them it's a lot of fun. If not it's OK; I just wanted to leave the note of caution out there. My ideal girl would not have to love sports at all, but simply understand that I do. Sometimes the differences in the little things can help to bring us closer, because the compromise teaches us to deal with the bigger issues down the road.
I hope fate hasn't forgotten about me.
I have said waay too much I apologize.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Dinner at a place hopefully too busy to seat right away. A good conversation waiting, before the food. Good food and conversation, and if your out already you might as well do the dessert or have a plan to have some elsewhere. A plan before the whole date to part ways afterward to eliminate obligations during and after the date. Maybe meeting up with friends of either side or both, afterward to hang out comfortably. NO Movie, no room to talk.
But hopefully a phone call the next afternoon, to make plans for the next day. A comfortable place with room to talk and an ending.