Update, I obviously missed the cutoff to cancel my upgraded membership, so here I am still. I'd love to get off this site. Where are you, Right One?
Cancelling my upgraded membership effective December 15 2017. Best of luck to all of us out here fishing. I don't know how that will change my account features and status. :)
I have a happy soul! We all have negative moments, but at my core, I've got a smile. If I had to pick one word to describe myself, I'd select "multi-faceted". Ok, maybe that's technically two words. Get over it. :) I really like being Me! I don't want to give the impression that every moment of my life is a roller coaster or carnival, because I love and crave the quiet, relaxed times just as much as the busy times. However, I try to fill my life with a variety of experiences. I am a divorced mom, and my ex and I share positive joint custody of two wonderful boys ages 16 and 18 as of 11/2017. I am enormously fortunate -- my ex and I get along well. I am in the mortgage industry, which I find fascinating. It's been quite challenging recently, but this is what I want to do, so I'm going to tough it out. I've been in this business since December 2003, and I love my job 95% of the time. If you want to know about the other 5%, see the first line of my profile to understand why I'm not talking about that right now. Haha. I'm well-spoken, quick witted, quick to feel emotion and share it. I rarely am angry, and I get over it very quickly. I've been told that I forge "the strangest relationships with people". I take that as a compliment. That confirms to me that I am open and have no prejudicial tendencies. I am happy with my life, and I don't need a man to fill any gaping voids. However, I often think to myself that I'd like to share whatever I happen to be doing with my soul mate. I don't want some one who will tailor his entire life around what I'm doing. I want him to do his own thing, and I want our intersection to make things better for both of us. He's gotta be ok with some spontaneity and have no prejudices about different sorts of people. He's also gotta be thrilled with the fact that my children are my first priority for now. However, it's time for that to shift. I talk too much sometimes, so I'll stop here.....for now. :) My photos are between 5 years and 1 month old as of 11/2017 :) p.s. I find it appealing when a man takes pride in his use of our language. If your profile description is written without attention to spelling, usage, grammar, etc., I will be turned off and unlikely to respond. Another update -- I've found that I get along better with men who have children in their lives. I don't count out a man who has no children of his own, because fate sometimes makes that decision for a person. However, it's important that man fully understands just how much a part of me my children are.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
What I'm looking for...
Ultimately a true partner. A mutually complementary pairing. We both have full lives already, but together we are 2+2=5. Chemistry, affection, passion, friendship. Humor. A regular guy. A guys' guy, but not a heel.. He is kindhearted but fierce. Well spoken. Alwasys learning. An emotionally mature communicator. Able to be both alpha and beta. Loyal. He's been hurt, and he's hurt others. He's learned from both experiences. The one I want by my side got the best and worst things life brings.