If you are over 50 and you are still playing games you are not much of a person and you deserve to be alone. If you are continuing your search for a perfect partner, give it up. Just not going to happen. Lies or deceitfulness eventually are discovered. Shattering in deception that trust built up over years, months or even the few weeks when one first meets and is disappointed. It is good to have a source like POF where one can communicate and nurture that hope of finding someone. Even if you do not find someone here, at least that hope lives on every time you log in.
If you find someone who may be a possibility to be a “keeper”, don’t betray that trust. You may think you are getting away with sneaked phone calls/texts or messages to another person, but you are not. All things come to light sooner or later. You can see a lot more things on POF than you realize. Stay off POF or other dating sites once you have had a conversation about this with your “new love”. Don’t neglect your “new love” by failing to communicate with them. There is nothing worse than feeling lonely when you have a partner. One text a day, one phone call a week, one meeting every 2 weeks just doesn’t make one feel wanted.
I’ve met many people in life who are involved with “better than nothing”. Settling with someone because they have found no one better. Well that has never been me. I’d rather let us go so we can maybe find someone we REALLY want to be with. And, for me, if it never happens, then so be it. I’ve never been one to allow myself to be on the second burner for long. I’ll try for a while, but if I see nothing changing, then you are obviously not satisfied with me and I’ll set you free so you can keep looking. Most men are brutes. They have very little sensitivity. They think that you won’t notice so it is ok. It’s not. I notice, but I am still giving that opportunity until I’ve had enough and then you’re gone.
I don’t mind that my profile is getting longer and most men won’t read it. I am grateful to weed out those who would waste my time and emotions. I’m not desperate, nor will I settle. I will give you a chance, many chances. But never betray me because there is no come back. If you make plans and are wondering if you should invite me or are hesitant, then don’t do it. If you tell me that you went somewhere or did something, I will wonder why you didn’t invite me then if you do this often, obviously you’re not that into me and I will offer my friendship. I don’t understand why men don’t want my friendship after I’ve ended the love interest one.
I’m tired of giving free advice for right now, so, carry on.
btw, if I add u as a favorite.........doesn't necessarily mean I want to date you. just means I want to look at your profile again later...maybe I like your puppy or the background in your picture....then again, maybe I like YOU and see if you contact me. you must like animals, it shows compassion and patience.
I smoke so if that bothers you, don't contact me. If it shows on your profile that you don't then I will bring up the subject to make sure you are ok with it as I DO NOT want to go out with someone who will be bothered by it as dating makes me nervous anyway.
*** You must think of topics and questions to ask me too. I can only carry a one way conversation for so long and need your help (if you are interested
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I'll meet you in a public place. ****************DID YOU KNOW THAT NON UPGRADED MEMBERS CANNOT CONTACT UPGRADED MEMBERS******** pof won't let the messages go through.