TomLifGrd: Looking for a fit, smart & playful woman
Non-Smoker with Athletic body type
Palm desert, California
66 year old Male, 6' 0" (183cm), Non-religious
Caucasian, Virgo
TomLifGrd is looking for a relationship.
Bachelors Degree
Hopeless Romantic
Retired Medical


I am Seeking a Woman For Dating
Needs Test Not Completed Chemistry View his chemistry results
Do you drink? Socially Do you want children? Undecided/Open
Marital Status Single Do you do drugs? No
Hair Color Brown Eye Color Green
Do you have a car? No Do you have children? All my kids are over 18
Longest Relationship Over 10 years How ambitious are you? Somewhat Ambitious
Pets Dog  

About Tom
In this grand outing called life we encounter many people of the opposite sex. Some we like,some are interesting but too this or not enough that.Then there is that thunderbolt we call love. When we are struck by the love thunderbolt, a consuming interest develops an fills our time and atten. at this stage in my life I am ready for that bit of lightning again...I am..definitely interested in finding someone to share life and all that entails. Besides, who has it in their power to stop lightning? smile.. Sometimes we try to force what seems to be a good thing because with enough sublimation of our true needs/self we can make many more intimate relationships work. Show me a union where there hasn't been a lot of adjustments, compromises, and adaptations and you have found that one in a million perfect relationship." AS I have aged, the golden rule, honesty a sense of appreciation for other peoples needs tempered with empathy and caring for another human being have emerged as goals of mine. Am I successful ? heh...I smile
I work hard at staying physically fit and am in good health with no issues other than vision.
People regularly assume I am in my early fifties, but I have put my true age, to my detriment..grrr lol You may have noticed I have no car and that is because of the genetic pairing of my parents and the resulting vision disorder that presented in my mid thirties. I am independent and take care of myself with my biggest need being transportation. My vision loss as you can see from the picture here is not noticeably obvious....I look and am normal!reasonably normal anyway lol I had totally perfect vision until my thirties. I taught swimming and lifeguarded to put myself through college, snow and water skiied, loved golf, had catamarans, speed and ice boats, and tried most everything. Moving to Palm Desert, after selling the house on a lake, (that I built by myself when my vision was near 2 degrees), my intention is to explore the summer heat in PD and July and Augustthen consideroptions in a more temperate climate and then winter in California.
I commit easily when a relationship works and have no issues with fidelity fact during my marriage no mucous membranes of mine ever touched those of another.. I am not in a screaming hurry to marry, but do enjoy the overall feel of a committed, solid, healthy & monogamous partnership.

The word "committed" above reminded me of Elizabeth Gilbert's sequel to EPL entitled Committed. In that book Gilbert describes her parent's relationship and how they would do impromptu things like go out sledding in their fifties and their clear attraction for each other. I cannot find the exact passage from that book where Gilbert describes how her father watched her mother walk across the kitchen with a constant longing for her. I want that kind of attraction/longing to a woman who knows how to use her feminine skills to the benefit of a relationship. I may not know you are flipping your hair or licking your lips or giving me other visual clues, but I love touch and I totally appreciate a woman who can verbally flirt with me. smile

Three seasons in the desert are great. My dog and I get a lot of walking in and routinely head to the pool to sun or swim laps daily..

Starting a get to know each other dialogue via email is my preferred method of establishing contact and sorting out those sometimes awkward beginning relationship issues. If you are smart, physically in good shape and think we might be a match, send me a message. I'd love to hear from you.

Oh, and if you like to play Jeopardy/Trivial Pursuit.this is a plus...


Most everyone knows men are visual creatures and develop attraction based on a woman's looks ...Michael Caine in his latest book describes watching a Maxwell House commercial and being totally smitten by the on screen actress. He immediately made plans to fly to Brazil hoping to win her company.. The next day he discovered the actress lived a mile from his home in England and they have now been married for decades! totally a visual phenomenon that generated his interest . as I once again venture into the world of dating after a long time away things have changed a bit ...I am now learning I develop an interest based initially on written words and profile info..not pictures. When I was younger and lifeguarding looks, grooming and physique drew me in and then intellect eventually trumped physical appearance. But now...with a bit less intense biological imperative and a few more years experience..I am trying to sort out just what type of woman will get my blood boiling an my interest in pairing up with her to rise to that levelwhere I really long to be with her more and more and just can't wait to kiss her again.

I am not an aggressive man, but I definately have a twinkle in my eye and love to banter, get playfully edgy and cleverly engaging. So, if a solid, emotionally and financially stable, secure, playful and easy going man will work for you, then I'd love to hear from you.....

"This is for all the single people
thinking that life has left them dry
don't give up until you drink from the
silver cup you never know until you try"
"Lonely People" by America

Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I like first meetings to be low impact, easy going events. I like the lady to feel comfortable and neither of us need that dating anxiety we all felt as teenagers. Since I do not drive, I like to talk a bit on the phone so there is a basic comfort level before meeting. If you want to meet with me, lets work out the details.. ...I would be fine with taking you for appetizers, drinks, dancing, walking ...hey, I am easy going -- whatever works! Message me if you would like to meet.
The "meet me" feature on POF is not accessible to me. Please do not use this feature if you want to make contact. The only way is to use the POF mail or "send message" feature...sorry

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