Quiet contemplation and riotous laughter come easily to me yet don't be fooled by either because at the heart of it I am watching intently to see if you have a genuine interest in those outside you (like me, for example). I like guys that understand the importance of and are confident enough to lovingly put their attention on those around them ... whether it is their children, employees, co-workers, friends, or pets. With that kind of ability, of course you won't forget to include yourself in the mix ... including yourself is part of the fun. I love the Earth and express this love through my work and my meditation practice. Integrity, fun, laughter, creating art, being of service to my clients, bringing beauty to the world, family, access to the natural world, travel, living well by ingenuity vs. consumption are all high on my list of must haves for a successful life. I have a fantastic daughter in college and good friends. I am fortunate to live in a stunningly beautiful part of the world. Being happy is my responsibility.
I am a student of the Enneagram. It would be fun to meet someone who knows and appreciates this system so we can practice the art of waking from the confines of our personality patterns.
I am looking for a guy who knows how to have fun, knows when to take things seriously, knows when to leave me to myself and when to offer me the comfort of his strength and wisdom. He also knows how to set boundaries for himself without making me feel bad in the process. In other words ... a pretty emotionally sophisticated guy who has gathered the ease of lightness and the wisdom of being grounded.
For my part ... I like finding people right just as they are. On my best days I do this with ease and grace. I also believe if women can't find the guy right who they are with, then they really have no business taking his time. This goes for all manner and forms of relationship ... not just intimate ones. We all seem to have plenty of reasons to be less than nice to one another and I just don't want to go there. It's just no fun. One of my favorite teachers teaches the art of finding the 'yes' in everything ... even if we must say no. Somewhere, somehow there is a yes even if it is a tiny yes. Yes usually feels better than a flat out no. (Except when someone is being really mean of course)
My latest self discipline is to let my joy out more very day! My work and art give me the opportunity to express this as does the 5 Rhythms dance work. I LOVE dancing and always have.
I love music although I am not an audiophile. I welcome learning about new music and am thrilled to have a brilliant brother in law put together several fantastic playlists for my IPod ... what a guy!
If you have a vibrant sense of humor that feels good to be around ... well that's the ticket for me. If you love yourself but aren't IN LOVE with yourself we might just get along fine. I really enjoy interactive dialogue ... sharing thoughts, ideas and intimacy that opens the door to our hearts and souls. I like it when people feel safe to share themselves with me at a much deeper level than normal ... in fact, I treasure it.
Good food done lightly shared with friends, love and fun are highlight for me. Laughter, intimacy, playfulness, silence, serenity, observation, calm and clarity are all of great value to me. Oh ... I have enough creativity for several people but would enjoy seeing (or hearing) yours as well.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
A first date might ask me what I think would be fun, which is usually a simple meet and greet to check out the chemistry between us but I like the idea of being asked what my idea of fun might be. I also like the idea of a phone call to learn more about each other before a first date.