Please be prepared to ask me out. I guess I behave to spell it out: don't be stupid. Know how to (1) ask a woman out like a gentleman with class (2) keep the plans and (3) understand why you need to be birch slapped but rather are ignored if you can't do this or cx via text. No woman who wants a MAN can respect a coward. Be a (1) Good (2) Man. I don't date pansies, cowards, disrespectful little boys who still don't know their role!
Men and women are not at their best just talking on the phone. My experience is that this lends to judgements, misreading and so on...because in-person interaction is what is natural with humans. Phone exchanges with substance really should come once their is a foundation (established in person). I have experienced rudeness, lecturing, selfish deflection, and an overall a lack of giving qualities from men on the phone that I am confident would NOT have existed had they met me in-person and cared about people interaction enough to establish a real life situation. There are countless studies on this, so ask me out!! Life is about people, not things...so remove the phone from the equation.
Please be prepared to share in an equally respectful exchange in conversation. I need a man who doesn't speaks from his ego self. Be beautiful from the inside out! This requires a sharing approach as we exchange. It is very important to intellectually creating a conversation where you (and I) enjoy the experience.....equal sharing. When a man doesn't do this it is very disrespectful and no conversation with any self respecting woman will go well once you become disrespectful.
Please be secure enough to be capable of handling a strong woman who respects herself. This includes listening to my views and respecting them, not having s tantrum when you can't "change" my view. A mature, healthy man can appreciate difference without making it personal or anxiety creating. I can respect you, so I expect the same. I don't like controlling men and they don't win in that quest.
About me....I might as well admit it......I love being spoiled and taken care of and anything else doesn't cut it. Amazing men need only apply! Approach with class showing you are capable of thinking about the lady...not yourself.
REQUIRED: GENUINE, HONEST, GENTLEMAN, THE TYPE OF MAN ANY MOM WOULD BE PROUD OF, WITH THE ABILITY TO LOVE AND TRULY BE COMPASSIONATE TO MY FEMALE SENSITIVITIES. A MAN WHO IS BRAG WORTHY AND ONE I CAN ADMIRE!! Seeking grounded and sustained goodness in a man.
I tend to make friends easy, it is finding true "keepers" with good souls that is the challenge. So, if you are a truly good person and an awsome man....you rock!! If you are seeking a "for now" type of connection, that is NOT me. Whether friends or lasting gf/bf husband/wife relationships, I believe in sustained long term relationships. Although, I will say that men say they want to be friends, but my experience is most are incapable of being friends as sex is typically the agenda.
PAY ATTENTION MEN--WOMEN ARE BUTTERFLIES, NOT TO BE TRAPPED/CAUGHT, BUT APPRECIATED. SHE WILL STAY IF YOU TREAT HER RIGHT!!! I am a butterfly and have been told I am angel. Shine the sun on me and give me your beauty and show me the flowers in your heart and I will play and stay in your garden. Break my wings and I will be forced to fly on my broom. ;)
Here is what is funny: Do we change much from when we were three? I am not sure we do? So...a man sees my profile and much like a boy who wants the toy ..he tries to get it. Maybe he sends a message or two and he does not THINK about what he is saying b/c he is "reacting" to his desires...so he says something stupid or rude or inappropriate....OR with little effort (lazy). Then..b/c he doesn't get what he wants....he utters some rude comments including but not limited to "no wonder why you are single"....as if to throw the toy down and stomp...having a baby trantum. Please boys.....I am seeking MEN. No babies need to apply!!!!! No males with anger problems or rage issues, violent tendancies or attitude b/c I am seriously not the one! LOL
HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.....
If you are ALWAYS missing during the evening hours or "unavailable", I have no interest in a person who exhibits signs they are married or otherwise entangled. I am well aware of what it is like when a man is interested and takes the steps to (1) get to know me (2) share himself with me and (3) grow/move along to developing steps to something real. Remaining "casual" and "random" does not encompass any of that substance. Anyone who can only talk to me only in the daytime, online and very short or rushed conversations at all other times (in addition to just being completely unavailable) is of no interest to me. Life is too short. I am not a cheater but men like this...by the time they pull their head out of their ass....will be gravely surprised and devistated when a woman "easily walks" or "occupies her time with a wonderful man". I believe in "investing" in a great person, in amazing and remarkable experiences and supporting the best type of man. So, if you do these dumb ass things it sends me and every other woman the message you are not interested, or not intelligent or simply spreading yourself (which is just straight nasty). Moreover, it sends the message that you are not worthy of being invested in as a "best of the best" type of man.
Great news!!!! I don't spend my time trying to figure it out if you send me vibes that "you are just not that into me". And..honestly..get real...if you are attracted to me...don't you think someone else is and therefore occupying my time when you are off playing games. I have been graced with some great relationships....with men with some amazing qualities...thereby setting the bar high...so why would I tolerate rift raft. The reality is...no matter what comes out of man's mouth (useless words), they only have value when his conduct shows "HE IS INTO YOU"...and NOT "when it is convenient" for him...but consistant "action" is what defines a man...not empty words, compliments or flirting. A man who disappears and fails to communicate, share or bond apparently does not fear that my fine, beautiful, smart, sexy, savvy, intelligent ass is not being snatched up by another man. As such, I have no use for such a low valued man. ----->I can hear my dad, "He has someone else and thinks you are going to wait for him or be a sucker....or he is JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU" and views you with little respect and thinks he can treat you as a convenience
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
This answer depends upon the person and the connection. I hope it is not some boring "meet me for coffee" routine....I find that to be lacking in effort and imagination on sooo many levels! Something enjoyable, fun, memorable, ect.
I do know one thing. This site is full of men who like to chat/text and engage in endless time sucking efforts headed NO WHERE. If you message me a few times and we go back and forth and you fail to ever ask me out, you will be thereafter ignored. I get emails from the same assclowns from the last time I joined years ago....never amounting to anything. These males need to pull out their credit cards and call a chat line. I am not here for your games.
PLEASE DO NOT SEND RANDOM INVITES TO CHAT WITHOUT FIRST EITHER KNOWING ME OR INTRODUCING YOURSELF THROUGH AN EMAIL. I DO NOT SIT IN FRONT OF THE PC WITH MY TIME AND CHAT WITH RANDOM PEOPLE. LIFE IS TOO SHORT. SPEND THE TIME INTRODUCING YOURSELF PLEASE.
Show me you read this and aren't just another pic surfing perv (needy guy)......ask me out on an intro date.