Christian. First and foremost, I am a Christian. That is to say, I strive to honor Christ in all I do. (Unfortunately, many are Christians "in name-only" because it serves their own purposes.) I attend and participate actively at Victory Baptist Church. This includes the choir and a van route for mobility-limited individuals.
Background. I was trained in principles, standards which do not change even when society does. Things like that it's always right to do right, because it is right, not just when it's also happens to be popular. And that it's never right to do wrong, even if you mean well. And that the Bible is always true, even when you may not understand; it's your understanding that lacks, not God's Word. You cannot pick and choose the parts you want to believe - God wrote the entire Bible, not just the parts you like. Or to put it another way, do you trust God, or do you just say that you trust God?
Computer Technology. I have performed various Information Technology roles with a variety of companies since 1993. I have most of my work experience in supporting computer users, but I have also served as a network administrator, network engineer, and programmer in several languages. I enjoy work and I enjoy computers and technology, but as you can see here, it is not "my life".
Politics without getting political. Government is intended to help people without getting in the way. Unfortunately, it usually gets in the way because many people in government are interested in their own power rather than doing good for others - and many seek their own power in the name of doing good for others. Those who really do want to do good tend to either want to do things that government has no business doing, or else they mean well but they don't know what they're doing. So I try to get involved to keep things open and transparent (avoid officials taking personal power) and help regular people get involved (keep government focused on what it needs to do, and provide input to do it correctly. And this all starts with local government. I get involved with the Bristol VA City Council, and wound up getting on the Planning Commission and appointed Chairman. I also participate with local political parties and nonpartisan groups, to help get people involved in their local government.
Recreation. I enjoy a variety of games, including board games, video games, card games, and casual sports. I also like doing things with friends or my family. My parents live about 9 miles away and I try to do something with them weekly. (My three cats are my at-home family.)
Good Deals. I like getting good deals. Not "cheap", just paying a lot less than the item normally sells for. Things like canned soup half-price by the case, cables for $5 that sell at Wal-Mart for $40, or a computer for $400 most places would sell for $1200.
Other Interests. I also like:
• Video games. But not first person shooters - they make me nauseated. I like multiplayer games, but not with monthly payments. And while I like video games, I don't actually play that much.
• Science fiction, like Star Trek, Star Wars, Stargate, Heroes, Doctor Who, and anything else that's written decently. Oh, and Transformers...
• Any other well-written fiction, or entertaining non-fiction for that matter. I like "chick flicks" and own While You Were Sleeping", among others. And "The Princess Bride" is probably my all-time favorite. Not so much for sitcoms though - they're usually mindless. I like "The Big Band Theory" - it's a good show, despite using the name of a disproven idea. I don't like excess sexuality (with or without nudity) or juvenile humor (which is why I don't like most "comedy"). Give me a good storyline, and maybe have some reasonable technology (whether or not the theories have been proven, just not fully disproven), some action (the Mummy movies, X-Men, Lord of the Rings, Chronicles of Narnia), and maybe some (clean) romance (While You Were Sleeping, The Net, any of Jane Austen's stuff). Hey, look - "The Princess Bride" covers all of these! Well, if you count "magic" as "experimental pharmacology"... :)
• Cats. Including my three, two brothers and a sister that somebody dropped off at church when they were about 5 weeks old. They are all tabbies, one orange/white (Goldbug), one light orange/white (Creamsicle), and one with some orange, yellow, white, brown, black, and about any other color to some degree, but mostly dark (TigerKitty).
• Spending time with friends (as indicated above under "Recreation"), often at church or church-related activities.
And I do not meet many of the "nerd" stereotypes - I live on my own, not with my parents and not in an apartment (I own my home, thankyouverymuch), and I don't play video games, much. Though I do like technology, have several computers, collect toys, read comic books... OK, the term "geek" might apply... but one who likes chick flicks too...
If you're married or divorced (which is essentially married, according to Paul in 1 Corinthians 7) forget about anything romantic. But I do have a lot of married friends of both genders, generally including both sides of the marriage.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
My ideal first meeting, whether or not you might consider it a "date", would start at church. You might want to come to church in the morning, to see more of what the church is like, but the evening is a little more relaxed. (I'm in the choir, and the choir stays in place in the morning; we go to our seats in the evening.) You can see me from where you are, and if you don't like what you see, you can leave without the discomfort of directly rejecting me. Hopefully you will like what you see, and if you sit front-and-center or mid-center-right, (or move there at the fellowship time in the second congregational song), I'll see you there. (I used to sit front-and-center, but that's usually taken now.) I usually sit on the right side (stage left), and if you sit there, I may sit with you if you don't mind.
We wouldn't be able to do much in the morning, since I have to leave afterwards for the return van trip; evenings have more options. After church, we can go someplace for supper, preferably with some of my friends along. They are mostly married couples (mostly with teen kids), and they can feel both of us out and see things that we miss. You know, stuff like, “she really has potential,” “she isn’t worth your time,” or, maybe they’ll tell you that “he’s a real loser.” Though hopefully not :). A group setting is safer for both of us, as well as having the opportunity for second opinions.
Early "dates" (a term I dislike, since it refers to short-sighted relationships) would tend to involve Sunday lunch with friends from church, which I do almost every week anyway. As they get to know you, they can give their thoughts on your long-term potential, as they will see things in your attitudes and character that I would miss. Though I am involved in lots of other activities, if you want to participate.
If things continue, it won't be long before I ask you to do something with my parents. As I said in the Description section, I try to do something with them every week or so anyway, and it wouldn't be a "meet the parents" thing, just something to do. Probably lunch, maybe a movie, maybe at a theater if there's a good movie out, or at one of our houses. Or maybe a board or card game instead.
Activities will focus on friendship, not dating. Dating focuses on emotional attraction and encourages putting up a good front, generally hiding the "real you." That hurts the potential for a real relationship rather than helping it.