A random sketch: I would much rather be stacking rocks in the yard, or cutting a mortise and tenon joint by hand, or building a gate--anything sort of quirky, non-mass-produced and creative--than watching TV or texting-talking. In fact, ever since analog went digital, I don't have a TV. I've never had a cell phone or G3, don't really know how they work, and would probably have to be bribed or coerced into getting one. Blackberries, in my world, are thorny and sweetly delicious, not electronic. OK, OK, I DO have some vacuum tube stereo stuff, and a good pile of really clean vinyl. And yes, I love being able (thanks to the engineers!) to change out a headlamp bulb on my Toyota--hooray for almost completely idiot-proof technology! But if I had my 'druthers, I'd learn how to do the bondo-work on my '62 Valiant. Much more skill, craft, touch.
I probably read and analyze too much for my own romantic good, and maybe too much to suit most people, but I'd go insane if I didn't, so be ready for an occasional polysyllable, and maybe an animated discussion or two. I eagerly will hold up my end of an interesting conversation, and will eagerly ask questions about pretty much anything that's worth talking about--I have a pretty vast range of interests, I promise. By the same token, I am likely to mock openly anybody who seems to be just waiting for me to entertain her. Conversation, as I understand it, is interactive, not passive.
Does all this mean that I'm overly serious and humorless? NO! I take a perverse pride in finding humor pretty much anywhere--yes, it's there in the unlikeliest places. I have figured out, I think, that this tendency is genetic: I inherited my father's arid, even withering sense of irony, but also my mother's free and open laugh. I laugh WITH people, most of the time (unless they DESERVE to be laughed AT)--if I'm laughing AT anyone, it's usually myself.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Alas, I have never been on a real golf course--if I see no ramps and purple windmills, I'm lost. I only mention golf because it introduces an element of playful rivalry and low-key competition, and still gives us a chance to talk. A chance to talk in a comfortable place is key--so that usually means coffee/tea or wine/beer--and that's OK for an initial meeting. We can save the low-key competition for later.