I have no idea what a profile should be to interest someone so maybe better put the cards on the table first. It shows me how they will actually behave in situations that makes us the individuals we are through what we actually do in daily life. Writing a profile demonstrates thinking, as one has to choose words more carefully than how we chat. In conversation its almost automatic and does not require much thinking. So how people do things, in the way they do it also shows how someone thinks. This is very useful when it comes seeing through people, past their appearances. One can see how selfish, or self centred, or genuine, they are shortly after one initially meets people. Today we try and understand eachy other through conversation, which hides the insecurities behind the well manicured front, as any sales perso or con artist knows. First impressions, is brilliant as it proves when it comes to choosing partnerships many discover they got it wrong, when they could have known more and made an informed decision. So even the way someone holds a cup and drinks, eats, doing everyday things even the washing up, is fascinating as its a living picture of who they have become, and not a snapshot of their idea of what is their best side.
I got me interested in comparing human social behaviours, exposing the patterns we unconsciously show the world in daily life. It was an unexpected shock to my way of thinking at the time turnign my world upside down. It helped explain how and why people become selfish, treat others badly, became successful or failures and almost everything that happens, from the good, the OK, the very bad, as well as the complete and utter unacceptable. Why become stuck in a mindset which can lead to social acclaim, success, or tragic situations, what made us the people we have become. It also helps explain how we all become so different, not just looking different but in every other way possible. Discovering answers is never a good thing, curiosity changes how one sees the world, as its impossible to unlearn things. So there is a lot going for the idea, ignorance is bliss in my opinion. Not all cultures look for the same qualities in a partner, in some practicalities are far more important than romantic ideas. I am seeking partnership, where scratching each others back is what we both are really after, so a sort mutually beinificial selfishness, where its win-win..
Why are we physically the most evolved tactile of creaturesand then created a male values in certain culture where it is discouraged, which is not the case in all cultures. I remember the fairy princess I always dreamed would marry, had menstrual pains, moods, and insecurities. Why was that not ever mentioned in the books I was indoctrinated with as a child!!!??? So in life we are told thing, educated to accept things that do not always work like they should, and it teaches us all..... its easier to blame others for one’s own shortcomings, when things go tits-up!
I have read so many profiles that tell me women are tactile, and want to laugh, which to me is as annoying as women who are offered one night stands and the rest of the nonsense. I want to know other things. Anyway so a lot of men appear to just want a mother substitute, whereas a partner in crime is nmore my cup of tea. It’s a human need to feel wanted, to be able to show give and receive affection. People thinking they want sex, alcohol, food, success, public status, money, possessions, careers sports, soul mates, lovers, fitness, romance and so on, that worries me as they are really telling everone they are trying to satisfy an emotional / psychological need with substitutes and diversions and despite getting what they want often feel something isstill missing making them seek further distractions and trophies.
Research has shown that if we are not touched much as children, shown affection, we do not develop properly as adults, which explains why so many people become a bit peculiar, selfish, insecure and so on. I learned the first rule of survival was to be able to adapt quickly to new and challenging environments. I have sadly lived all my dreams, done more than I ever thought I was capable of doing, so have now the time for someone else, as their dreams now seem far more interesting than just rehashing my own.