This upbeat woman lives passionately. Located in the city near the Botanical Garden, I have a variety of interests that I pursue with enthusiasm. I dance most weekends and play simple guitar accompaniment to old time fiddling every chance I get. I love bicycling but don't get out often enough and would *love* to have a good biking buddy. I enjoy cooking, especially when there's someone to eat with. You'll really get points if you offer to do the dishes and if you're a cook, too . . . well, I find being fed a real turn-on!
I'm literate and enjoy cultural events, speak a little Italian and have studied Spanish. Am currently trying to learn a little Croatian in preparation for a trip to Croatia to fulfill a lifelong dream of seeing where my grandfather was born. [Edit: I was a complete failure at learning Croatian but the trip was amazing!] I thrive on intelligent conversation. I'm moderately fit and you should be, too. Politically liberal, it's important enough to me that if you aren't, too, you should probably pass me by. I'm a devout atheist and an ethical humanist.
I enjoy the company of a man who is intelligent, confident, and has a good sense of humor. I'm especially attracted to science guys - botanists, biologists, and others - but don't discriminate on the basis of occupation. I love writers; touch and words are my love languages and if you are good with them, you'll probably go straight to my heart. I love musicians, especially of the old time variety, but so many are flakes. If you aren't, I really want to know you. If you are a blues dancer, I definitely want to know you! Writers and other creative guys are welcome, too, but please be grounded.
I'm a very sensual/sexual woman who lives very much in her body. I love smooching with a good kisser and appreciate a sensual, caring lover. I am *not* here looking for sex. However, should things eventually go in that direction, you absolutely must be a confident, caring, tender partner. I'm not looking for instant relationship but I'm looking for a guy I get along with really well that it would eventually naturally develop into a lasting love. I don't discriminate on the basis of age but I am pragmatic and realistic. The wider the gap, the more cautiously I proceed. I'm looking for long term, committed, lasting love. If you are significantly younger, you will have to convince me that you're serious. And if you're much older than I am, you have to be able to keep up with me.
What I look for, even more than common interests, are common values. You must be compassionate, tolerant of diversity, and not overly materialistic. Ultimately, I'd like to find a man with whom I could have a deep level of rapport and compatibility on an intellectual, emotional, and physical level. A lot to ask for? Yes, but what's the alternative? I do not live superficially.
Please Note: If you want a response from me, you're going to have to write something *interesting*! "hi. u r cute," "I like your profile," or similar will *not* get a response. If you want to start a conversation, have something to say! Tell me why you think we'd want to know each other, what makes you laugh out loud, or about something interesting you heard on NPR recently. Decent spelling and punctuation are appreciated.
If you're responding to something I wrote in the forums, thanks!
P.S. Factual statements made in this profile are true at the time of writing, as far as we can determine. (i.e. age, etc.) We expect the same of you. False or misleading statements, such as misrepresenting your age, are grounds for immediate dismissal.
A few afterthoughts: I'm 5'6", 147# on the bathroom scale. Shoulder length brown hair increasingly highlighted with silver. Eyes - bluish with a little green and brown - is that what they call hazel? Don't wear makeup, I'm mostly an all natural girl, but I do have streaks of pink and/or purple in my hair. I prefer a guy who is not particularly overweight, who lives in his body and cares enough about it to take care of it. As for kids - I'm past childbearing age but should we develop a relationship, I welcome yours.
P.P.S. I don't IM and please, please, please refrain from using "LOL"! It is a *huge* turn-off. And you making a big deal out of that just makes it look like you don't have anything better to say and is an even bigger turn off. If you want to have a conversation with me, Have Something Interesting To Say!
P.P.P.S. I don't respond to "____ Wants To Meet You" emails. If you want to meet me, send an *actual*message.*
Thanks to one of the Forum fishies for this. It sums up my thoughts exactly:
"A good relationship comes down to conversation and sex and good manners, I suppose. And if you can continue your conversation and your bawdiness and your good manners for more than ten years, then you're doing awfully well. Conversation is the truest barometer in a relationship, and when you're not moved to open your heart to your lover, something's wrong that needs fixing. We all know that. And yet it's a fabulous gift, true conversation. The world is full of cant and rote and reflexive chatter; good talk is pure gold, and it's what lovers need from each other." Garrison Keillor
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
If you're a dancer, you should definitely meet me on the dance floor! A few dances together will probably tell us more about each other than an hour of awkward conversation over the proverbial coffee. As an alternative: I like being places like an outdoor art fair, the botanical garden, or a museum if it's not so nice outside. Being outdoors makes me feel good and having something outside of ourselves to pay attention to, yet still have room for conversation, works well for me. Sharing a malt at Crown Candy could be okay, too, or biking the riverfront trail if the weather is decent.