I am honest, sometimes to a fault. I may not tell someone something when I feel it will harm them or me, but if asked I will be blunt.
I am human. I make mistakes, but I own them when I find that I have stepped in the meadow muffins.
A little honesty and an update on my life and current situation::
I am 5 years Post-Transplant for Stem Cells:
I had the transplant on July 18, 2006 and I am doing well. Some setbacks, but those are expected.
I developed Lymphoma (NH/CLL) 20 years ago and I underwent Stem Cell Transplant in Seattle at the SCCA/ Fred Hutch group. I went into the hospital in June 2006 and sprung myself in October 2006.
If you are still reading, then you might truly be interested in meeting me and I would appreciate your inputs.
I personally do not think there is a perfect person.
Real partners work with each other to create and advance their relationship.
They are aware of shortcomings that temper the wonderful attributes of their partner.
Each partner, in a working wonderful relationship, is aware of their own shortcomings and knows that their partner will be there to help them in this area.
One partner may be a great accountant and can handle the household finances but can't figure out why to separate the whites and colors in the wash. The other partner may be able to bake a wonderful pineapple upside-down cake, but can't figure out why the oil needs to be checked in the car, much less how to check it.
With all that said, my point is that I believe that the best matches that can be accomplished are complimentary and not perfect. Each partner will have strengths that the partnership works to strengthen even further and weaknesses that the partnership works to improve.
I would like to close this with a quote from the recently deceased George Carlin when talking about his wife and marriage: "A: There's a lot of luck involved. Brenda and I got lucky the very first time and didn't have to go through several spouses to do it. It's a kind of complementary way of filling each other out and making each individual more complete. The key for us has always been to put the twosome ahead of either individual whenever that was an issue. That helps. And then, I don't know, star-crossed something -- it's just magic."
What are your views?
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I would ask her where she would like to meet, how she would envision that meeting, then ask her to work with me to accomplish it.
I would hope she would like anything from seafood to a hotdog. A trip up the coast or a slow walk in the snow. A warm bistro with good Jazz or a quiet little place only she would know and wants to share.