I am a highly creative, intelligent, freethinking woman. Some of my views are pretty unorthodox, so I am looking for someone who is open to discuss new things. I love dancing, performing and writing music, history books, and tend to be pretty geeky. I also can get pretty sarcastic. I don't trust easily, but once i do, you can't find a more loyal or loving friend or lover.
What should you read into that? I am looking for someone with a high level of emotional maturity-chances are, if you are younger than I am, we will ALREADY be at a disadvantage, simply by the depth of experiences you haven't had yet. And, this may be a silly pet peeve-even though I'm no grammar nazi, I DO raise my eyebrows at the prospect of an "intelligent conversation" with someone whose first message to me goes like "hey wut up? ur hot." Typos are one thing, but near illiteracy, with no real content for discussion is another. At any rate, I'm not looking for someone who just wants to "hang out" or "chill". I'm looking for someone who views a friendship, or dating relationship with me as a level of commitment. If you don't seriously care if you stand me up to hang out with someone else, or whether or not you can still see yourself talking to me in six months, don't toy with my time. Seems like it should be common sense.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Something with room to talk. And I don't necessarily like expensive activities for a first meeting. Probably with a good bit of messaging leading up to that. As easy as it is to get the measure of a person better when watching their face, I tend to be very shy, and need some already existing rapport. In this vein, I don't answer IMs unless I've already messaged with you. New people are pretty intimidating to me. So please don't take it personally, if I don't respond, or respond a while later. I don't always have the time, or momentum to handle things right away. And it won't make me more likely to get back sooner if you write back to call me rude, or get defensive, because you haven't gotten a response. I suppose that's another one of the intuitive things that people don't always think about. Is making me feel threatened and hoping i'll write back with a defensive or apologetic note really going to improve things?