(TL:DR) If you like it brief:
Me:: Well educated, deep delver of life, innovative, romantic, fair-minded adventurer. Somewhat starving artist, free thinking, creative intellectual; strong-willed yogi. Humanistic white-collar hippie, greenish-leftish-libertarian professional. Unapologetic coffee snob, performing artist.
Ok, there's a lot going on above & below the surface but I'm always a gentleman & most importantly - I'm Interested in more than one thing at a time - whatever the day will bring - all at the same time. My approach to romance & intimacy is always individual but it ranges from good friends with benefits to extensive commitment & even a family - it also features every step in between. I really depends on the connection.
Also, I'm 2-3 years younger than this profile shows. An >ex once changed it as a joke & I can't fix it now.
Then again, if that 2 - 3 years made all the difference we might not get on that well.
A bit more me, For those who like to know some more (I'm one of them): Are you looking for someone who is interesting yet interested?
Looking for someone sensual but who will talk to you.
An original, self-made man who knows his own mind & has searched his own soul?
I like people, I truly love women & I like sharing the moment with them whilst trying to be an example of the changes I would like to see in the world. I'm always open to another's strengths & their needs whilst never ignoring mine.
I'm open to all sorts of possibilities with the right person.
I can't describe that person today any more than you sight unseen can describe me. Nor will I detail what relationship type I'll consider before I even meet a person because the nature of what I want will change on contact with another person. I can & will be honest about who I am.
Can't say I get the POF limited choices or the concept above - "but nothing serious." Let me be clear, I'm looking for fellow travellers. People who like being around me - the agenda & the time is simply secondary & something I don't think I can really know until I've spent time with a person.
Most of the time, I lean towards open mindedness but am never, ever superficial. If something more serious is on the agenda & the chemistry is right then I'm truly up for that. If something more immediate, or less enduring is more relevant why not? Also, that's usually how most longer terms connectoins start.
I will be honest with strangers & even more so with people I'm close to. Trust, loyalty - this is what counts.
I'll share strengths & interests with who express their appetites. I'll respect the space & make room for those who don't. Honestly, I love intimacy & I love connections & I've mentioned how I feel about women. You can't force the nature of a connection anymore than you can force the connection itself.
Am really not sure if you can chose a category of interaction in advance. Given that my preference for what to do & where to aim is going to depend on how I get on with you, I'm not going to pre-judge or insist on this or that interaction. Wouldn't you want to meet someone before starting to determine how you wanted to relate to them... I want to meet people & give them my best on the day. If the story that waits to be written is an ongoing one, let's see what we can do.
So what do you want? When a woman is serious or easy going - if she is intense or careful - if she is understanding or exotic with me; then naturally I'll tend to respond accordingly. I'm looking for women who wants to date but I'm also looking for women who want to connect, to explore, befriend, meet, kiss, talk, make music, develop, touch, dress up, improve the breed or contemplate life's possibilities with a truly loyal man who is above all - an individual. There are some special people in my life & our future may well be poly. There is room for a developing family there.
There is always room in today for the best of what we can find. I would really love to find someone who can fit into that, ideally someone who also loves women & wants kids but I don't want someone who can't be themselves.
None of us can help how we were raised & my folks pushed the story that a man learns to be happy in his twenties, how to love in his thirties & how to commit in his forties. So I'm here & ready for whatever life can bring only to discover that many people have a different map. All I can do is make the best of it.
There is even a darker side - from which my creativity stems - available on request. A man who is becoming at least somewhat open to polyamory. It is natural that we have different agenda at different times with different people. It's about giving your best: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory
Personally, I live more in the moment than I do in a specific place. Geographically, I'm based in Sydney & also in Canberra & sometimes other places. That can & does change. Wherever I am 'living' it is for me about being good to 'my people', being the best man, the best person I can be. This means (depending on the day), actually being the change I want to see in the world, although that will reflect what is happening in my life. I am not confronted by differences, nor troubled by emancipated, independent, smart or strong woman. I accept those who look for acceptance, reinforcement or a strong will & direction. Nor do I believe you must be any of these things or anything else to be accepted by others. Again, its the quality of what you are & do that engages my interest.
In the past & possibly in the future I've been a successful IT geek, a teacher, a natural therapist, a singer, an actor & a security suit. I speak English, a fair amount of Mandarin & a little Japanese. The life so far has been full of change & adventure, there has been love & I seek the company of loving & lovable people wherever I go.
Not really sure where it is taking me but I am walking through the doors that open. Sometimes, I think about settling down. The poly lifestyle appeals to me more & more but I from the beginning to the end it's all about loyalty & depth in all my connections, even if they are brief. I feel no great pressure to live 'a quiet life' or go out & party-party. It's about being there for the people who are there for me.
My friends would & have described me as a sensitive idealist, emotionally sane, a faithful friend, a rule chooser rather than a rule breaker. An enduring SOH who can be childlike without being childish. Recently I'm told that I seem wise which means I must be getting older - gosh!. Clearly a bohemian - a man who enjoys a fine but inexpensive lifestyle & a yes - a great lover of women. Dressing up or dressing down - my garb & my mind - depending on mood, moment & imagination. I am quite open to tasteful kink & whatever really
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Minimise the pressure for a start.
Conversation & getting to know other people more than superficially: This is very important to me but keep it easy, make it comfortable. Sit - walk - play... but with the accent on listening & letting the other know the things that are important.
What we do is secondary to the rapport. Frankly I will tend to not know if I'm interested in something considered or casual until I've met you. I don't take an agenda on dates. People are what interest me.
For the shorter term, I'm looking for sensitive or positive people who understand the intimacy, even the intensity of sharing the moment. I am not as concerned with your background or issues, height, weight, nearly as much as what you are willing to share. Please do not be concerned with your age or weight. I appreciate a woman's face & figure & style but my interests do not stop at the superficial. If I ever judge, it's your character that will engage my interest.
I do, however, much prefer the company of non-smokers.
Perhaps what I'm saying is please don't be distracted by POF's idea of how people should present or categorise each other. If you're up for it than I'm an all of the above & below kind of guy.
For the longer term please read the above carefully. Thanks for reading this far too. :)