I had a profile and cant seem to log on to it, so I created a new one....Here for the forums, married to a great woman that I met online, yes it works!!
Having been involved with online dating for quite a while, and successful with it, I figured Id fill my description with my observations. Not worth much but entertaining to me;
Get a picture, give a picture. There is only one thing worse than being surprised when you first meet someone after seeing a picture. Having a look of terror in their eyes when they see you. Give them a recent picture. You don't look like you did 20 years ago, don't kid yourself. If they sent you a picture that doesn't look anything like them then there are two problems (other than that they are probably unattractive) They are dishonest and they are not real happy with who they are.
Keep the first meeting short. Sure, you can suffer through a couple of hours with someone that you know is not a good match but why? You doing her/him a favor? I doubt it. Make it short, be kind. It is a smaller world than you think. Being rude always has a way of getting back to you.
Always take the high road. You are probably going to run into someone that is flat out miserable. Don't take the bait. You really don't want to get into it with them. You will feel better about yourself and you never know who is watching or listening.
When looking at a profile pay just as much attention to what isn't there.
Fake profiles are out there. If you see something that looks fake, it probably is. Too good to be true, it probably is. Inconsistencies in story, Hard to keep lies straight.
Do not forget what you are looking for. If you are looking long term try keep that in mind when talking with people. You are not going to change them. If they are looking to notch their bedpost chances are it is going to end very badly. I know all relationships end badly otherwise they wouldn't end but believe me there are degrees of bad.
Work on yourself. If you feel you need to lose weight, exercise . If you feel you need to read more, buy books. If you feel you need to expand, take a class. Self-improvement accomplishes many goals, the least of which is finding your perfect match. The most important accomplishment is it makes you feel better about yourself. You basically have two choices. You can continue to grow or you regress, maintaining equilibrium is almost impossible.
The person you are talking, emailing or texting with does not exist until you meet. The fact is some people get their jollies by screwing around with people on dating sites. Do not get emotionally involved with someone that you have not met. Meet as soon as possible if for any other reason than to validate their existence.
Sideways pictures....If you cant figure out how to rotate a photo then don't use the picture. I see a sideways picture and I think "that is really dumb". Negative initial impressions, though possibly unfair, exists. Try to avoid them. Start with not making someone's first impression is that you are "dumb".
Look at the profile pictures with a critical eye. I just noticed today that two profiles that showed up as matches were obviously professionally done. I did a google search and found one picture was from a hair color ad and the other one was a picture of a news anchor from a local TV station. You would think they would at least grab a picture from an out of town news anchor.
When writing your profile use spell check. If I see a misspelled word or words on a profile I immediately think stupid, lazy or both. What does it take to spend a few minutes making sure that at least nothing is misspelled. I just read a profile and she said "rebal with no cause". I immediately looked to see her education level. It said High School and I thought "it figures",
Talking about the ex...don't do it no matter how much he or she is on your mind do not talk about him/her, even if asked, change the subject. There is nothing positive that comes out of talking about your previous relationship. It says one thing...you are still thinking about your ex!
Pets, some people like them some people don't. I think saying you like animals is enough to target the right people. Having pictures of you groping them in my mind is well creepy. I am not a pet person however, a person having a dog or cat no issues there. A person who brings that animal with them where ever they go and wont go on vacations because of leaving the animal...a problem.
Selfies...Ok for facebook I would try and avoid them for a dating website. It looks like you are in need of friends to take a picture and perhaps in need of activities that warrant a picture. However, if a selfie is the only way you can get a picture out there be aware of what is behind you while taking. One POF'er told me the guy took it in the can in front of the urinal..seriously? That is wrong in so many ways I am not sure where to begin.
More to follow.........