phule: I am a homeless and broken unit.
About
Non-Smoker with Average body type
City
Olympia, Washington
Details
50 year old Male, 5' 8" (173cm), Non-religious
Ethnicity
Caucasian, Pisces
Intent
phule isn't seeking a relationship or any kind of commitment.
Education
Some college
Personality
Geek
Profession
Computer Repair Tech


dating
Since, according to the number of times my Sunglasses images has been deleted, seeing my eyes is the most important part of the image... here they are.






I am Seeking a Woman For Friends
Needs Test View his relationship needs Chemistry View his chemistry results
Do you drink? No Do you want children? Undecided/Open
Marital Status Single Do you do drugs? Often
Hair Color Brown Eye Color Brown
Do you have a car? Yes Do you have children? All my kids are over 18
Longest Relationship Over 3 years How ambitious are you? Somewhat Ambitious
Pets No Pets  



About Shane
If you made it past the title, I have to wonder.

{UPDATE 08/09/2018}

Let's just start with the fact that I'm never going to purchase an account on POF, so the paid feature that allows me to see who wants to meet me is never going to be in my grasp. That's right. If you clicked something that indicated you wanted to meet me, and you expected me to be able to respond in kind, that's not going to happen. Ut can't happen. I get the notification from POF, and the notification contains a link to a paid service which I cannot access. But hey... if you are only interested in people who pay for their membership, I guess it is a good way for you to cull out the free members.

I made it out of the hell hole of Aberdeen/Hoquiam, and although I'm STILL living out of my truck in Olympia, at least I can say I'm not in Gray's Harbor anymore. Yes, being homeless is an improvement to living where i was. One could take this as "Forum's Only" if they were of a mind to. I'd say I'm still looking for companionship of some kind, but I've learned a lot by both the extreme isolation I've found myself in over the decades, and also from the kinds of people who tend to reach out to those damaged individuals who end up homeless and/or isolated. Let's just say it is never pleasant.

I quit smoking 02/2014, but I switched to vaping. So I'm now officially stating that I don't smoke, because I don't. I vape.

And the "Often" answer to the drugs question? I vape BHO. Cannabis Wax.
{End of Update}

Seriously. My Hobby is my job, and something I love to be involved with. I'm a computer repair technician. I take them apart, figure out what is wrong with them, and break out a soldering iron when necessary. Now. I've been on or using a computer since 1982. I've been a computer gamer since almost immediately after that.

Look. If you go into a relationship expecting to change someone to fit what you want or need... then you shouldn't be going into a relationship with them. None of us have a right to expect to be able to change anyone... because we can't. We can only change ourselves. If the person we meet and become interested in isn't someone we want to be involved with as they are then we need to move on. This just means the whole concept of finding someone we can cram into a preconceived mold is just wrong.

**I AM A BROKEN UNIT**

I have baggage. Lots of baggage. Angina, Low income (Meh pay, part-time), crappy apartment, locked trunks of baggage that can stay stored, but still go wherever I go. I've got to work and save, and then fix this Angina... so I'm not much use to anyone once I'm off the clock. It takes time to recharge, so I can push myself at work. Why?

**I AM A BROKEN UNIT**

I just moved to Washington in the beginning of the fall of 2013. I'm looking to see if I have a place here. I may be able to create one, but time will tell. Not that I'm leaving it up to chance, but considering what I do, the economy here and all the elements in-between... let's just say that I'm keeping my eyes open for inspiration. Provided that things click, I'll open a repair shop or involve myself with an established one. I might even lend my services to one of the organizations getting computers into the hands of low income individuals... possibly even expanding their operation to include cities outside their current range. I currently work for a local Nationwide retail company that dedicate's half the store to EASY tech. *wink*.

What makes me unique? The way I think, the way I look at the world... my experiences to date. I've been an individualist my entire life. What makes me unique is a complicated issue. Some of my actions may be similar to those of others, but the reasons why are all mine.

I don't go to bars. I can't say I am opposed to drinking, but I just don't like who I become when I am drunk. The burn in the stomach initially, the stumbling through words (and the environment), the general loss of control... I find these things to be unpleasant. Maybe I shouldn't have lived in New Orleans for all those years? I am willing to admit that my issues with alcohol could simply be that I haven't had the right experiences with it.

I am a homebody. I've spent much of my early adult life moving from place to place, so staying at home really gives me that warm, fuzzy secure feeling. When you have gone and lived somewhere that people tend to only visit on vacation... you end up not needing to "get away from it all" nearly as much. I'm not saying that I've gotten the desire to travel out of my system (my recent move proves that), but I'll never complain about staying home. Of course, the fact that I'm limiting myself currently due to health concerns plays a major part in why I like to stay at home.

I am a great cook. I've been a line cook in a few restaurants. In my early 20's, my roommate and all my friends attended a culinary university (and I wrote a few of their papers for them, listened to them talk about what they were learning, etc), I paid attention when I was working in a restaurant in New Orleans. I enjoy the science behind cooking, and I find creating something new and delicious to be very rewarding. I also know how to cook healthy when I have a kitchen AND the food to cook in it. I'm losing weight now, and I know how to make that work for others too.

I am a problem-solver. I'd call myself a diagnostician, but that is a term typically applied to doctors and others in the medical field. Being able to analyze a situation (computer, car, conversation, etc.) and break it down into individual parts, and then examine those constituent parts to find where the problems are... I've spent the majority of my life doing this and getting better at it. I am human, however. This super power is difficult to apply to myself and issues I have an extreme emotional investment in. But hey.. even therapists need to see other therapists.

I am a firm believer in equality. Note, this is not the same as being identical. People can be different, but equal. I do NOT believe that any person or gender has a specific and defined place in the order of things. I just believe that people should define what is fair in a relationship, and then both should hold themselves accountable to that standard. The keys here are that what is considered fair should be flexible enough to survive a conversation on the subject. For example, a partner who says that they will not ever stand for raised voices, must never raise their voice. However, if they do insist on raising their voice, then they need to revisit that demand that no one else ever do so as well. Fairness and equality. It is easy to understand and agree with, and takes regular work every day to maintain.

Well... that's enough to mak

Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Conversation starters, eh? This used to be where you'd describe your first date. Guess that wasn't working out as well as people would have liked.

Well... Isn't an email, or message through the POF, a conversation starter? I mean, literally... it is starting a conversation. Isn't a greeting the best conversation starter? I should think so. Hi, or Hello, or Heya, or How Ya Doin? Yet, instead of starting conversations, we are performing single clicks on "meet" buttons, so that the system sends some kind of notification for us.

I get it. Most of us are afraid of rejection, so we don't even start the conversation. My reasons are slightly different. I've got nothing to offer, so I don't start conversations these days.

Too heavy? Probably. So in the spirit of the change how about "Hi. I'm Shane. Care to talk?" There's a conversation starter.





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