I would like to meet someone who is done having children, who is goal oriented, who would love to live life with a supportive, loving, and compassionate woman....who is willing to get married some time down the line and to be what I need..I'm not interested in casual sex or being someone's sexual release. I'm so done with the sexual invitations, I politely decline, I'm so much more than that.
I am a firm believer in actions speak louder than words but that doesn't mean that I won't appreciate a stimulating conversation so if you can only say hi, then I'm not the one for you, we are adults and should be able to hold adult conversations that consist of more than just hi. My kids are my world so whatever I have to do to support them is more important then anything else. I was in a 17yr relationship (married for 11 of those) which just didn't work out despite my efforts so if your question is do I know how to take care of a man, my actions prove that. I just can't keep a man that doesn't want to be kept. Its been almost 8yrs since the divorce. We had a rough patch but we get along and co-parent great. We had 2 sets of twins. My girls will be 21 this year and since I lost my youngest when he was 2, his twin will be 18. I can't have anymore children so my mind is on traveling and spending time with the new lucky man in my life. I'm laid back and go with the flow so as long as it doesn't include heights, whales or sharks, I'm down.
I was assaulted by someone from a dating site which left me in a pool of blood, going through a trial and wondering if dating online should even be an option. But I'm a firm believer in not living in fear but I won't give my personal information out just because I was asked or to just anyone. If you find that a problem, I understand but I won't be doing anything that I'm not comfortable with.
Communication is vital in any friendship/relationship so if you can't talk to me then we have nothing, if I take the time to respond to your text or message then that means I'm interested and will call you when I can. If you can make me laugh then you created a long time friend. I don't play games and I'm far from needy, I'm not a female that feels the need to talk to a man every five minutes, some days you won't hear from me. I'm brutally honest but I do it tastefully. If you choose to insult me because I don't reply in your timeline or because I disagree with your views then approach me when you are mature enough to handle me. I know what I want and don't want.
I'm really not a mean person, I just know what I want. Some men have become lazy daters and want a woman to come to them. I'm not into that. If we can't do for one another then we shouldn't be dating. If we go on a date and you can't find time all of a sudden to talk like we were talking before the date then there's no reason to fake it. I just want to find someone to hang out with and to enjoy being around. I don't have time for games or to be strung along. I love to laugh so once you get me started, you will have a friend for life. If I left you a message then something about you has caught my interest so please feel free to stimulate my mind. Just remember you will receive what you put into it and once you do that we will always be in the same boat...you just won't have to sail alone!!! I'm 5'8 and I mean no disrespect when I say this but when I put on heels I'm at least 6'0 so I can't date a man that isn't taller than that. Although, there are sometimes exceptions to the rule, it depends.
If you are in a complicated situation then pass me by. I've had my fair share of hang up calls, conversations with wives/girlfriends and mothers of children. I'm at a place where peace is priority so I don't have the time or patience for liars or deceitful people. I've buried a child and a 10yr old nephew so life is too precious to waste on foolishness.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
First dates should consist of somewhere we can talk and not be rushed. Dinner would be a great atmosphere for that. No, I will not be inviting you over and I'm not coming to your house.
DO NOT BE A LIAR, PROCRASTINATOR, WITHHOLD INFORMATION OR BE PUSHY BECAUSE I WILL BLOCK YOU. I RESPECT OTHERS SO I EXPECT THE SAME. DATING SITES HAVE BECOME A NIGHTMARE AND I'M JUST ABOUT READY TO GIVE UP. I DO NOT ALLOW MY PAST TO HINDER MY FUTURE SO IF YOU'RE STUCK ON THAT, GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR SEARCH...