IM Not Dating
** Here for Forums only: I am not dating **
Imagine that, PoF worked! woo-hoo, how lucky can a girl get? I met someone on PoF in 2007 who thrills me and we're in this very cool relationship. Frankly, he couldn't be any cooler if he had an air conditioner strapped to his butt. HOLY CRAP, we must be more than a little bit serious or a whole lot crazy because we've MOVED in together.
Yep, that's right, I'm giving the milk away for free! We're discussing the co-hab agreement and it's bogged down a little in the negotiations. HE wants my leather sofa as a "signing bonus" and so far I've been holding out. (it's a very nice sofa yanno). He says it is a real shame I am willing to allow crass materialism stand in the way of my blissful happiness, but I figure he stands to get at least 1/4 of a closet (down the hall and on the left) and what MORE could any sane man want or need out of life?
I'm an active, intelligent and witty professional woman; reformed political junkie and a country girl who was surprised to love living in the city. Still need a cottage or country hit from time to time to feed my soul. I'm a thinker who has a fascination with the whys in life and a goofball who can be just plain silly. I have yet to drop-kick my dog down the stairs and my teenager thinks I'm only marginally embarrassing, so things are going great.
Interested and interesting, thoughtful and thought-provoking, good hearted and quick minded, grounded yet also a bit twisted, insatiably curious and quick to laugh; I’m comfortable in my own skin, usually well mannered and infinitely kind. *grins* I seek awareness and a deeper level of compassion and even manage it for entire moments of time. I enjoy irony, paradox, dark roasted coffee and saying yes more often than no.
I thrive on conversation about connections, understanding the world and who we are as human beings. There is sheer joy in free ranging conversation where the exchange of banter, ideas and thoughts flow and we digress on our digressions. Even better when I learn something new or have to confront one of my ideas.
I’m a warm, caring and loyal friend; a giver who "gets" myself out of giving. Does that make it a selfish act, I wonder? Multi-dimensional but not very complicated; I value a spirit of generosity, integrity, compassion and getting the joke. I care deeply about people, at the same time, no one has ever accused me of walking around with a potato chip stuck between my buttcheeks trying to make sure it doesn't break. Getting the balance right is key. I'd live in the now more often if I weren't such a procrastinator. Wisdom is earned from the speedbumps that life provides and our courage to learn the lessons. I have, finally, miraculously, come home to live life from the heart. Eh, we are all a work in progress.
My favorite Helen Keller quote:
"Security is an illusion, it doesn't exist in nature. Life is either a daring adventure, or it is nothing at all."
Let's say life is the water's edge. For what do we thirst? (adapted from King Nosmo)
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" Krishnamurti.
Your task is not to seek for love,
but merely to seek and find
all the barriers within yourself
that you have built against it.
"This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.
I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community, and as long as I live it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can.
I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no "brief candle" for me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations." ~ George Bernard Shaw
cyber stalker: As the last five posts no longer appear on our profiles, I'm adding links of some of the people I regularly stalk in the forums:
My last 25 posts are found here:
'that guy's' history:
oh who else??? I miss having the last five posts on our profiles... now you know who I'm stalking, LMAO
Forums that have been deleted from the index page:
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
My ideal first date is to try something new: stand the guy up and leave him cooling his heels in a torrential downpour cursing the insincerity of on-line dating. Well, I assume he cursed the vagaries and uncertainty of on-line dating because what he actually expressed to me was genuine concern that I was sick. You never know what will work until you try something new.
My ideal first vacation together is also a totally novel approach... travel to the middle of no-where to meet his 17,000 sisters. Cuz yanno, when I've done my "what I want to do on my summer vacation list" THAT has always been on the top of the hit parade. Talk about "adventure travel", I honestly thought that would be the thing that would have me come to my senses. Dayum, didn't work... guess I'm crazy in love with this fellow. Or maybe just crazy. Better luck next time sweetie.