6/18/2013 UPDATE: I’ve been on this site, off and on since its inception. I’ve met some great people, some with chemistry, and some without. Had a pretty good relationship with someone I met on here, but sadly it was not meant to be Happily Ever After – but we’re still friends, and I expect to get an invitation to her wedding (it was a 3 year relationship, and has been over for as long, actually longer.
I get a lot of mail from people who enjoyed my perspective, some genuinely interested, but just don’t match up with what I’m attracted to … since speaking in generalities doesn’t seem to work, let me be as plain spoken as my manners will allow:
If when you hit your 40’s you chopped off your hair and started dressing like your grandmother, odds are I’m not going to find you attractive – doesn’t mean you’re not, simply means I have a different opinion as to what I find appealing. There is nothing wrong with being matronly; I’m just not into the Amish gone mild look….
If you went the other route, and dye your hair one of the colors from a stick of Fruit Stripe Gum, and are operating under the delusion that wearing your daughter (or granddaughters) clothes is a good look for you, again, you’re probably not for me.
All I want is the girl-next-door, someone whose adult life doesn’t revolve around clubbing or bingo. I can’t imagine anyone ever got out their crayons and drew a picture of me as what they were looking for as a life mate, but for someone out there, I know I’m pretty darn close to what they consider perfect.
The friendliest people I've met in Florida were Canadians...
As a true Southerner, I realize I'm in a different environment now and have to adapt to the way things work around here ... there is one thing I will never adjust to and that's rudeness. If someone takes the time to flirt or compliment you, where does it say you can't respond with "thank you" for a compliment or "thanks, but we're not a good match" for a flirt? The argument that "I get tons of email and can't respond to all" doesn't hold water. If you get that many emails on here, then you have that many suitors in person and probably don't belong on here to begin with! One thing I know to be true, if you do what you've always done, then you get what you've always got... (For the uninitiated, if you want to meet a nice person, then MAYBE you should consider becoming a nice person. Being a nice person covers the entire spectrum, just being nice to a select few doesn't make you a nice person; it makes you an opportunist!)
To clarify my selected religious preference / status, I believe in God, I do NOT believe in religion. Religion is a man made creation, whose doctrine very often is in conflict with the bible itself. If religion were of God we would not be at war with other religions, we would not have such a varying interpretation of the gospel. Religions all have the same concept, it's the crap they add to it that turn religion into something inherently evil.
Time for a different approach in my attempt to attract Miss Right. It was obvious to me that I’m doing something wrong in making my pitch so I did some research and here’s what I’ve come up with; I am a brain-surgeon / day laborer. I enjoy jetting off to Paris for dinner in my mud truck while sipping champagne from a can. I enjoy fine dining, and seldom super-size my order. I love ballet, especially when the dancers swing around on the pole! No one can be all things to all people, and when you get right down to it, if you aren’t happy being you, then no one can be happy being with you. I’m not sure how to categorize myself, but I think the consensus would be a professional with latent redneck tendencies. I’m not pretentious, but you won’t catch me at a restaurant that has a drive up window, or swilling beer from a can. I’ve led an interesting life, and not all of it has been a cakewalk, but I’ve learned what really counts, and I wouldn’t change a minute of it (well, maybe a few minutes). I can tell you how great I am, and then spend my life trying to live up to your expectations, OR, simply tell you that I try to live by the golden rule. While I don’t always make the right decisions, I ALWAYS make them with the purest intent. (My own version of a “get out of jail free” card.) Sometimes you get kicked in the teeth, but even then you can hold your head high knowing that you have the respect of friends, family and coworkers. So how is such a nice, clever, average looking, middle class guy still single? My friends are wondering the same thing! There are only a few things about myself that I would change, some I can and will, and others are beyond my ability. I desperately want to quit smoking, and even tried the patch... but I couldn’t get it to stay lit.
1st, lets get the obvious out of the way; "average" does not mean 50-100 pounds overweight, at least not on my planet. 2nd, looking "just like your daughter" does not mean you should try to pass her photo off as yours, the 20+ years do show in real life. 3rd, don't try to pass yourself off as a connoisseur, when your picture shows you hanging out in front of the local feed store eating a bologna sandwich with the Springer Cam visible over your shoulder. HONESTY is just about the first thing that plays into a relationship AFTER physical and intellectual attraction. There are just as many people who prefer heavy as thin, and an equal number like me who prefer somewhere in the middle. This sounds a tad cliché, but if you mislead people hoping it will somehow become a non-issue, then you are only fooling yourself. The concept of "Barbie" is a chick issue, and most of the guys I know have no interest in a 13" mindless blonde hottie that isn't anatomically correct. Now let's move on to a little issue I like to call "REALITY" I still feel that the chemistry test is important. I think most people forget that since they aren’t attracted to everyone, that everyone may not be attracted to them. I prefer girly-girls, but I also like one that can throw on a baseball cap and go for a road trip in the convertible. I think diversity is the key to anything successful, and without the ability to change or adapt, we would still be clubbing our chicks and dragging them back to the cave. When you cut through the BS, there are many differing criteria that we all have, and failing to meet a significant amount of those base criteria for a particular person is not a reflection on YOU! My sister told me that finding your certain someone is a lot like shopping for shoes… It’s difficult to find someone that fits perfectly and is comfortable for any occasion. I’d have to say she’s right….
Yes I do have a motorcycle, no I am not a biker, rather I am a motorcycle enthusiast - meaning for the past 35 years of riding, I ride when the weather is nice, and don't when it isn't. I don't have any tattoos, nor the desire to get any.