I am a man who likes both solitude and activity. I am not afraid of change; I'm currently in grad school and working as a counselor. My goal is to help people who want to change, but never force them to do so. I'm an avid athlete who plays more to learn than to win. I take care of myself physically and mentally and I value this in others. I like being around people who can laugh at themselves--this is the ultimate sign of self-confidence. I value personal accountability. Do what you say you're going to do. Always. Or say instead that you can't do it. That's fine, too. Good manners are mandatory: I don't mean each and every one of the textbook Amy Vanderbilt gestures and traditions. I don't care whether you know a fish knife from a fish fork, or that you issue written thank yous after every date. I'm talking about genuine concern and respect for another person's feelings. I believe the old saying that you can tell much about a person from how they treat waiters, animals and little kids holds a ton of truth. I listen to all kinds of music, depending on the mood. My latest concerts were Steely Dan and Sting/Peter Gabriel.
My ideal companion is intellectually curious--especially about new and strange things, loves the written word, and is interested in people, places and cultures unlike her own. She loves the outdoors as much as the indoors, and seeks a balance in cultivating the physical, mental and spiritual sides of her being. I'm currently on a spiritual journey of my own, and I'm looking for someone to joyfully accompany me. But most of all, LAUGHTER is a requirement for hanging out with me. Be it silly, witty, irreverent or wanton, I wanna hear you make fun of the world--and yourself. IMPORTANT: Make your first contact some sort of original thought, even if it's one sentence. Sorry, but "Hey there" doesn't cut it, ladies!
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Short or long, whatever you like. The first date could be dinner out, or a nice picnic on the beach. Or perhaps a quick drink. If you like baseball, we could hit balls in the batting cage. Maybe hit the tennis ball around. I love to ride the bicycle. We could go watch boats in the harbor while we talk. I think a movie is a bad first date. The idea is to talk, and focus on each other--not stare at a screen. That way, we know quickly whether there is a connection and if there is to be a "next time." No problem if there isn't--that's what this process is all about. And I think we can do better than a coffee-only meeting, don't you?