How would I describe myself? I am the eternal optimist when it comes to love. No matter how many times things go wrong; I just know that there is someone out there that will be perfect for me. I have stumbled for years from one bad relationship to the next. I am very self confidant and very independent, however, I feel like the need for intimate companionship is growing. I love living alone, but I hate being alone. I know there is a balance somewhere in the middle. I just do not seem to achieve it.
I was married almost four years and I have one daughter. I’ve been divorced for six years now and I have done the “friends with benefits” thing. That is really never going to be what I am looking for. I want someone to share passions with. Not just my passions but their passions as well. I need to find someone that wants to know my heart and my soul on an intimate level. Someone that is not afraid to commit to sharing sorrow and joy forever.
It is my firm belief that the opposite of love is selfishness. Therefore, love and selfishness can not coexist. They are mutually exclusive. In order to find true love, one must be willing to put the needs, desires and preferences of the other person ahead of one’s self. One must be willing to joyfully embrace the complexities that go along with the other’s personality. One must desire to know and understand how each communicates and receives love (because not everyone speaks the same love language). One must be capable of stepping outside of their own comfort zone for the sake of the preciousness of the other’s joy. THE BIG CATCH….. The other must do it too.
I am a Latin male, living in Santa Clara County. I enjoy riding my sport bike and going for walks (especially on the beach) I like to play soccer. I like to listen to music. I love the movies. I like meeting new people. I’m polite to strangers, my favorite color is gray. I am not the best person that I can be, but I strive everyday to better myself. I have a past that is spotted with bad decisions and mistakes, but I wake up each morning resolved to allow today to fade the scars a bit more than yesterday did.
I am looking for friendship, to meet someone cheerful, to find true love and possible some one to grow old with.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
First date, let see... something natural and spontaneous, maybe a walk in the park, meet for quick lunch break just to see if we click. Chemistry is it there?
A coffee shop in the afternoon could provide a nice environment to have a good conversation and try to break the ice.
Or maybe an evening dinner at a nice restaurant.
All of the above?