jablai: love is a friendship set on fire
Smokes Occasionally with Average body type
Northfield, Ohio
44 year old Male, 5' 10" (178cm), Presbyterian
Asian, Taurus
jablai is looking for a relationship.
Masters Degree
shark wrestler extraordinaire

I am Seeking a Woman For Long Term
Needs Test Not Completed Chemistry Not Completed
Do you drink? Socially Do you want children? Undecided/Open
Marital Status Single Do you do drugs? No
Hair Color Black Eye Color Brown
Do you have a car? Prefer Not To Say Do you have children? No
Longest Relationship Over 5 years
Pets No Pets  

About Me
I don't know where to begin in describing myself, but since they say here that detail is important, I'm just gonna look around my place and tell you all the things that make me unique. If you haven't found anything in common with me yet, let's just hope that opposites attract. I like my meat medium rare, I like my waffles with chocolate ice cream, I give up my seat for old ladies, spare a buck for the homeless, but won't let a jerk cut in from the shoulder of the highway. I studied Accounting in College and Sociology in Graduate School. After I've got my Masters Degree, I'm starting to think I want to get my PhD Degree. My ultimate goal now is to move into big cities such as New York City, San Francisco, Boston to teach/work with unlucky/poor children (street children). Working with the children is my passion, because I believe children have no hidden agenda or preconceived opinions of anything in their lives, they accept and trust unconditionally. It won't be easy for me to make my goal come true, many things aren't the way I expected. But I am still praying, trying and hoping that I can achieve my goal. Anyway, I'm more aesthete than athlete, more Felix than Oscar, more ego than id. I treat women like gold, I don't play games and I've never cheated on anyone in my life. I've never been married and don't have any kids. I enjoy helping others in anyway I can. I speak other languages. I have accents. I'm an avid amateur photographer. I enjoy walking and the outdoors, especially the beach/the ocean. I love staying up late whether it's to have fun, watch movies, have sex or just read a good book. I definitely have an adventurous streak whether it's cooking out an exotic recipe in the kitchen, or traveling the world. My dream trip is taking the Orient Express from London to Paris to Venice to Budapest, and then relaxing on Bali Island with nothing but sunscreen and good books. Are you in? Let’s see. What else? I found time for Gym, National Geographic, Discovery and some classic movies (you must see Sunset Boulevard and The Philadelphia Story if you haven't yet). I'll take a healthy bicycle ride over limousine or a morning coffee at Starbuck's over brunch at the Ritz-Carlton. I'm confident but I know my shortcomings. I know to admit when I'm wrong. I don't have enough fingers for all the pies I want to get my fingers into. I prefer character to cute and I know how to treat a woman with a breakfast tray. I'm always looking forward to the future and finding the good and fun parts of it. I'm affectionate, have my romantic but original moments, appreciate fun and funny. I've been executive producer, graduate teaching assistant (to professors), researcher, writer (I just finish writing my first story/novel, and hopefully to publish it), computer nerd, bad dancer, good lover, but mostly tried hard to be a good man and a better man. I will be a lot of other things before I am done, but I would most like a woman to take care of, to love, to inspire and be inspired by... I'd rather share my life with someone special. Who wouldn't? I'm looking for a life partner, someone to fill in the last three words on my New York Times crossword puzzle, someone to remind me to lock the door behind me, someone to explain what they're fighting about in Iraq. I'm just looking for a woman who is mature, brainy, fit and down to earth. In other words an equal, is that too much to ask? So, I’m looking forward to talk/communicate first, and perhaps meet to some new people and make new friends. And If I'm in love with you and you're in love with me, we both feel like the luckiest people in the world (because to love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something and to love and be loved by someone is everything).

About The Woman I'm Looking for
A partner in crime, a weekend football (sports) fan and a woman who can make me spit out my food because she makes me laugh so hard. Confidence is good. Having a solid relationship with your parents is good. Reading the newspaper every day is good. Preferring must see TV to the bar scene is good. Being nice to waiters and lunch ladies is good. Being financially independent is good. Wanting children one day is good. And Victoria's Secret is just plain HOT. Age doesn't matter. I've been with all ages and at the end of the day, only one question remains: Will I care what this woman has to say to me over dinner ten years from now? I'd rather be with a woman who has big dreams and no money than a woman with no dreams and big money. The truth is I love funny woman who can hold me spellbound with a story or make me laugh until I cry. I also love creativity and passion. Common interests help, but respect and admiration are more important. The right woman not only fascinates me but also brings out the best in me. We push each other to be the greatest people we can be. We bolster each other's egos and we leave short, thoughtful love messages for each other when we're away on business trips. But I will say that if you can snowboard or surf, can flip your hair from side to side without messing it up, can name three Martin Scorsese movies, can get ready to go out in less than a half hour, Can speak other languages, are live/lived in other country, Want To Live In Other Country, or are part-time story-teller to the children, I'm already melting. I smile when I think of you. I walk down the boutiques and I want to buy you a purse that you pointed out but would never get for yourself. You fawn over me, cook together, massage each other before bed and have developed sense of sarcasm. I think it's cute when you snort as you laugh. You make fun of me when I can't leave the house without forgetting my cell phone. You act younger than you look because I like mature woman who haven't forgotten what it's like to be a girl. You can make me smile even when you're not with me. You can be passionate and spontaneous. You would look great coming out of a genie's bottle and know what my three wishes would be. You can love deeply and be loved. You don't live in the past and expect the best of the future. You can smile even when soaked on a wet day. You are mostly bubbly and light but sometimes dark. You would never take me too seriously and could make me laugh in case I took you too seriously. You have a great looking little black number as well as an old pair of jeans that have become part of the family. You know how to change your mind at the last moment and make it seem the most sensible thing in the world. You love and adore me despite all my imperfections and you always will. Overall, you never cease to amaze me with your wit, your charm, your smile, your warmth, your compassion, your energy, and your

Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
My Perception of an Ideal Relationship
We spend lots of time together, but not an unhealthy amount. It's not a problem if I want to hang out with the guys on Saturday night, because you're hanging out with the girls and we're still having brunch on Sunday morning.
Respect is huge because if you don't respect someone, you're gonna try and change them and if you're trying to change someone, you shouldn't be in a relationship with them.
Complete and utter comfort. I can be myself around you without feeling judged. You can sit in your room working while I do a crosswords and I'm entirely content. I only have eyes for you, you only have eyes for me and we communicate this verbally, physically and often. Warm and comforting cuddling are ever present.
Fights are rare and when we do get into it, we don't stop talking until we've reached some sort of peace.
Other important and underrated virtues include: doing nice things for no apparent reason, lots and lots of laughter, a mutually satisfying love life, and the hope that you can have a long and bright future together. And yes, love is hard, but it shouldn't be that hard. We appreciate each others' good qualities and can laugh at each others' bad qualities. And if you don't think you have any bad qualities, well, that's a bad quality right there.
Unparalleled companionship, unprecedented generosity and unconditional love grant us the foundation for a lasting long-term relationship. It's even clearer to me that there's not just one person out there. And even if you get lucky and meet a winner, there's a mountain of work ahead, no matter what. It knows that the work is worth it, that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts, which redeems the institution of marriage.
I'm not looking to jump into anything, but I'm a firm believer in chemistry and wouldn't turn my back on someone incredible just because I'm enjoying single life.
A great relationship is one in which the reality is not that far from your fantasy. As long as you have a realistic fantasy, you are bound to one day find your bliss. Listen, we all know that nothing's "perfect," but if a relationship is to have legs, the trust needs to be there, the want has to be greater than the need, the laughter must be constant and the sex should be mind blowing. We are aiming for perfect, aren't we?

My Idea of the (our) First Date
For lack of a better phrase, I'm ‘old school'(Repeat: Not old, but ‘old school'). I'm a gentleman and a romantic and if you don't feel you've been treated like a queen by me, then you weren't paying close enough attention. Ideally, I'd find a restaurant that's conducive to good conversation and hope to find that spark within the first ten minutes. And if not, we should probably still be friends. Seriously! There are plenty of good people out there. It doesn't mean you should discard them if there's no love connection.