Have you been a victim of a member who demanded that you close your account immediately and not talk to anyone of the opposite gender at all? Even the POF Hide option here is not good enough for them :-(
Makes this place look like Plenty Of Fiends.
And now having to re-create your account, and re-answer all those questions including the long Chemistry and Relationship questionnaires?
I think I'll start a support group here...
There's no shortage of wrong people here who get upset about profile status and wording and what the proper protocol on sites like this should be when people meet. And no two people agree on anything about it too, lol.
But I have made some good friends on POF:
(I am NOT a "serial dater". I chat with almost anyone, talk to a select few if the chats/texts go well, and choose to meet with very few. I don't "parallel date")
I've encountered 2 women pilots (try finding a pilot elsewhere, especially a woman pilot: they are a very rare class of people) and I enjoyed discussing my flying experience (Cessna) with them. Similarly, you might be in a rare class of people because of some special skill you have whom others here might be able to relate to.
I've encountered more than 1 female software engineer and we discuss what's wrong with certain elements of the POF architecture, software and algorithms in use here.
I've encountered people from countries (and cultures) I can't easily locate on a map, and learnt a lot about what's going on there through them.
I've learnt a lot about relationships and what works and what doesn't for different people from the experience of people here.
I even exchange inspirational Bible verses with a couple of Christian women on here. That's right, here on POF: Plenty Of Friends.
And all this for the bargain price of an upgraded POF membership! Where else can you go to meet such a wonderfully diverse group of people, right?
If you can't distinguish between a romantic relationship and a platonic/professional one with others of the opposite gender we encounter (even here on POF) and think every encounter here is only about trying to look for sex, and that men should not talk to other women in any capacity because they met you and you need "100%", swipe left (and I thank you for reading this far). Because the best relationships are based on trust that one will not cheat on the other, and NOT keeping the other on some kind of short leash.
e.g. the texts of the Bible (in the original Greek) do a good job of describing the different kinds of love people have for one another; the context may be a little obscured when translated to the generic/English "love", which the "100%" needy people can't seem to distinguish:
Agape: love for everyone
Eros: sexual passion
Ludus: playful love
Mania: excessive desire
Philautia: love of self
Philia: deep friendship
Pragma: longstanding love
Storge: familial love
Xenia: guest friendship
Do I want to be a POF Hall Of Famer? Definitely not, lol. I'm looking for someone I can get off this site with for good, because most normal people out there don't have a dating site account. But I'll miss some acquaintances from here though (but I see them on other dating sites using different names, which sometimes confuses me briefly)
In a way, this place is like Chuck E Cheese: after a while you don't really want to go back there, even for some kid's birthday party.
And there are times I feel POF is like Hotel California: "You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave" , lol.
So for those of us who concur on some of the frustrations we have with people we meet on this site, maybe we just need to look at the brighter side of things here for a change.
But I digress, so here's something about me:
Been out of the dating/social networking scene for some time, so meeting new people from diverse backgrounds here is becoming a fun and excitingly new activity for me! So drop me a note and we can chat (and meet if things click) and have some fun! I have a 12-year old and we do things together when she's with me, so it would be a very big plus if you have a kid around the same age ;) Bonus if you like foreign films, documentaries, cooking (with me!), understand something about the Nitrogen Cycle (I've raised many generations of fish), gardening, flying, hiking, weekend getaways, tolerant of political chaos without feeling a compulsive need to divide the citizens of this country, and can complete "Oh what a tangled web we weave, ..." :)
I was born on a safe, far-away nation island (but have lived in San Diego, CA for over 30 years) so I have enjoyed "walks on the beach" more often than most, so feel free to ask me anything about it and we can compare notes :-)
I am not into the bar/club scene and if your life is characterized by that, we would probably not be a good match regardless of what the POF algorithm says. But I do go to craft breweries for corporate/social events when necessary, and I do invest (long positions) in alcohol companies ;-)
I also go to church on Sunday mornings. You don't have to come with me, but it would be nice if you did.
(Decide if it would be awkward long-term if we both did different things on Sunday mornings)
I found this on a nice woman's profile and I feel the same way too, so I've adapted it here:
1. I'm not into women who are obsessed with working out to a point where it interferes with a relationship or attraction.
My August 2018 BMI (Body Mass Index) is 22.5 (I posted a graph of my BMI over the past 5 years, and POF deleted it along with my other non-offensive, motivational and inspirational pics that describes more about me than all this text).
2. I'm not into women with face or neck tattoos: I might spend more time analyzing those and the story behind how or why they got there. But I do like photo-realistic (3D) tattoos: show me yours and I'll show you some great ones I found online that will knock the socks off the usual tattoos out there. As for myself, I have no tattoos and plan to remain that way.
3. If you are just looking to get in my pants, be informed that I need a connection and to get to know a woman before I give her that part of me.
(OK, I adapted that from a woman's profile too)
Note: I can't change my birth year. The listed age reflects an unintentional 10% reduction/discount. And I am Aquarius not Capricorn, if that matters.
Take care and happy fishing!
(Please don't hurt the fish. lol)
WARNING: Nobody is granted my permission to utilize any of my profile photos or personal information; you may re-use other quirky content. Violation of my personal information and/or privacy is punishable by law
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Chat, and if things click between us, we could meet for lunch at some local place.
I understand what women need:
Respect. Support. Sex.
(I got you covered. If I missed anything, let me know: this list can be changed weekly if necessary)
Just sharing a guy's perspective of this site:
(since you're only seeing profiles of males and not females, I think)
1. Why are some women wearing a wedding ring/band in their profile pics?
2. I notice many women in my match list are from La Mesa and Carlsbad. What's going on there? Maybe I should move there!
3. Do women's profile pics here have lower necklines and show more cleavage than usual? Is this like the female equivalent of the male shirtless pics?
(guys notice these kinda things)
I've worked with women professionally, and I've also been married, and so I have some basis for comparison I think.
4. If you have a profile pic that looks like a stripper or pole dancer, or you have a webcam site you want me to visit, I will not be replying to you.
(I feel bad for the good women on POF who have to compete with the above class of women for a guy's attention out here)
5. A nice African American woman I was chatting with suddenly became a Caucasian woman here: it was like a magic show! Her profile pic suddenly changed. At least they were both nice to me. Women, please don't change your race abruptly like that: it really confuses us guys.
Public Service Announcement
(i.e. scams to watch out for)
Scams against women are quite different from scams against men here.
For men, they are of a sexual nature. They tend to be women seeking FWB, some webcam women, and others trying to get men to go to a raunchier website than POF.
Women who want to be my lover, but only if I give them my email address. They have extremely creative ways of obfuscating their email address to avoid automated detection, so gotta give them credit for that.
Women whose profile name always has an underscore and ends with 4 hexadecimal digits. (computer-generated?)
They like to invade POF on weekends, so it is a planned attack.
Women who contact me who look like 20+ , who list an age 40+ or 50+ to get listed in older men's searches.
Scantily clad women on staircases. I told one of them to be careful or she might fall off the railing she was balancing on in her lingerie.
She replied with a request for my email address or text number, like that's gonna save her from falling, lol.
For women, from what I hear, the scams are about getting money or iTunes cards, or from men allegedly serving in foreign countries needing their help.