I am a mellowed out achiever. Once upon a time I was on the edge of being a workaholic, climbing the ladder, playing hard, working hard, being competitive in all I did. Luckily, once I made my name, paid my bills, and made my mark on this world, I stepped back before I got lost in myself. Don’t get me wrong, I still love a challenge, and push myself to be a better person (and to be healthy and fit). But I am now secure enough to take my time and do it for the right motives (versus trying to impress someone). I have strong values and am proud of the life I lead. Yet I am a fun loving wild and crazy kid who doesn’t let convention tell me how to have fun. I am adventuresome and free spirited when it comes to playing. I do a great job of balancing responsibility with pleasure, as I enjoy all that I do, and don’t have any vices (like smoking, bar hopping, promiscuity…) that can make life messy.
I am the great guy next door who just built his own house, who loves being a father more than anything, who you can always count on when you need a hand, some engineering plans or investment advice, who loves life and nature and will be the first one out to ride his bike in the fresh snow.
Okay , what kind of woman would be happy with me? I think I am versatile enough to do what needs to be done, so I guess I should really be thinking about what qualities in a woman would I be willing to do anything for! First off, she needs to have good morals and be a real person, secure in herself and not a slave to her past. She should be able to use her brain and not feel intimidated by me using my mine. A good work ethic is a plus, as it trickles down into other areas, such as being fit and being a good parent and citizen. She should not be easily intimidated or afraid to try new things. She should be secure enough in herself that my success doesn't make her feel subordinate, and yet be sensitive so that we can intimately share our weaknesses. I would prefer compatibility in education, looks, fitness level, political views, financial position etc… but those are all give and take areas, since you cant judge a person by their salary or letters behind their name.
I can have fun with anyone; and in a way, that is a big reason people start friendships. I love to do stuff outside, biking, 4-wheeling, hiking, skiing etc, and I would appreciate sharing those activities with a quality person, regardless of their education. But if you want to talk goals, I admit wanting to marry my soul mate. I don’t want to be too presumptuous at this point, so there isn’t much need to go into it. But I really do want to be married, assuming I can find the right person and she enjoys my cooking.
No offense, but if you are not in shape, it will ve tough to keep up. On the other hand, if you are so shallow that all you want to do is win the next race or have some incessant need to collect trophies, then perhaps we have divergent goals in life.
I desire a longterm relationship, and maybe this site will help me to find my soulmate. Yeah, it would be great, but I really think it starts out of friendship (rather than just saying "marry me"). All the mumbo jumbo (above) aside, I realized that the last 10 years really flew by, and now that the kids are nearly all grown, I need to get ready for the rest of my life. And I want to share that with someone special.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
They say the more I write here, the more responses I will get. Well guess what… I am not looking for a million dates. One seems like enough as I am not interested in just “dating around”. So anyway, though I could try to paint something dreamy here…. I am not selling a used car, and even if I was, I don’t know you enough to find something special for you.
I would be glad to meet you for a plain bagel and water, or perhaps a walk, jog, bike ride in the park. No special place or entertainment needed, as all I want is a simple setting where we both can be natural and just chat away without noticing the time.
If you are looking for some "fairyland forest first date" you might want to stick to the guy brandishing shiny armor (look for a red convertible). Beware, he is (at least figuratively) hiding a bald head and gut under his fancy threads, and probably has some other motive for having to sell you such a canned date. If that’s for you, no hard feelings, but I would rather get to know you then just try to impress you. And I hope that takes the stress off, so you can just be the real you.