Wow ! Isn't the 'net cool ? I mean, here I am whacking merrily away at my keeboard, and there you are sittin in front of a screen somewhere readin it all, just amazing huh !
In an effort to be totally upfront about myself, and since the POF profile doesn't allow for such an option in defining ones self, my personal religious position is one of atheism.
To clear the air a bit further, no that doesn't mean I'm a satanist either. What it means to me is that I have searched mightily and have yet to found proof of any religious deity, so, I choose not to put faith in any of them.
If that puts us at irreconcilable odds, it's far better to just be upfront and adult about it, doncha think? And please, if this revelation moves you to excoriate me for my position, please save the keystrokes if you feel the need to attempt to correct me, fix me, or tell me I'm goin to a place full of evil souls. I respect any and everyones right to believe in whatever they choose, or not, and all I ask is that my perspective be given the same courtesy.
Ok so, off the soapbox ... ;>)
Having given the idea quite a bit of consideration, if I were to choose one word to encompass my concept of what would constitute the ideal description of time shared with a partner, it would simply be "comfortable".
It doesn't really matter where we are or what we're doin together, my preference will always be for that time to be comfortable for us both. From this point in life, the days grow shorter and certainly pass more quickly than in our younger years and I hope that both of us are in tune with the concept of sharing comfortable time together.
Anyway, do you .... Enjoy romantic time shared in pleasant company? Like movies you can't figure the ending to within the first 15 minutes ? Like R&R, Jazz, R&B, or Progressive / Alternative Rock, but would rather listen to dogs passing gas than Country music ? Enjoy various types of comedy, but have a bent for the dry, sarcastic or outrageous? Have a passion for life that seems to spill over a bit from the flow of the mainstream? Capable of monogamy once things get that far? Understand that personal happiness is an internally generated commodity? Like the face that looks back at you when you step in front of the mirror? Despise deceit, phoniness, jealousy or a lack of depth in a partner? Enjoy conversations that stimulate real thought and interaction and consists of something more than comments on the weather or the latest Tv phenom?
I'm a romantic at heart and enjoy surprises like flowers "just 'cause", hiding a personal poem somewhere you'll come across it as you prepare to greet the day, quiet dinners, and the joy of awakening to the new day cuddled closely with a loving partner.
Though many things in life are fun, interesting and fulfilling, none of these things are 1/2 as much fun as when shared with someone of a like mind.
If what you seek in a partner is : a drinking buddy, a cohort in some big drama, or a man to be a part time player in your world .... keep clicking, I'm sure you can find these things elsewhere.
One last thing, having pondered this one a bit I felt perhaps borrowing a few lines from an old Simon and Garfunkel song might best address a point directed at the "material girls" out there :
"I am just a poor man, though my story's seldom told.
I have squandered my resistance for a pocket full of mumbles, such are promises.
All lies and jest, still a man hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest."
Having been on the marriage-go-round more than once I've left a trail of diamonds, cars and homes. While this is not to say I'm myself looking for support, far from it, more to the point though is that if you are looking for that mate possessing the wherewithall to install or maintain some opulent lifestyle for you ... please move along, nothin to see here.
Having spent my younger years deeply entrenched in the money hunt game the things I learned most from that endeavor were that all the "things' I acquired came to own me more than I them, and that money is a pretty lousy way of keepin score in the end. If these statements deter you from contacting me then more than likely you'll be saving us both grief, so .......
If however you are seeking someone capable of complete honesty, a caring companion when you need a comforting shoulder or an ear to bend, someone who's always emotionally available and willing to share the wonders of what true harmonious unity can avail two kindred souls .... then drop me a few lines about yourself and let's see where it might lead.
You'll never know until you hit the "send" button ;>)
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Hmmm ... Ok, let's see here
Though I am far from traditional in many ways, a good 1st date for me always seems to consist of fairly common stuff. What's of absolute importance is that we get a chance to actually get to know one another in a mutually comfortable setting, so .....
How about sharing a nice cup of joe at Starbucks so we each get the chance to explore one another in a warm and friendly scenario. No hopes, no expectations, just simple conversation so we have an opportunity to see how things feel in the real world.
Then, if things click, who knows, maybe a trip around the city to take in some sights, a nice dinner somewhere we can converse and share a few of the tales of our lives, or perhaps if the weather permits, a nice pic nic somewhere interestingly different :>)
Honestly the venue is irrelevant, what's always of utmost importance in such an instance is simply sharing time in an environment that's pleasant to the both of us and .... that at some point in the evening I get to look deeply into your eyes. The eyes truly are the windows onto our souls and as such hold the keys to all our thoughts, desires, and secrets .... care to trade a few?