11/4/17-Took a 2 yr break on here and back to check things out. I am old fashioned and approachable but very picky when it comes to the core character of a man. I am no-pressure on a first meeting and expect nothing, but if you turn out NOT to be the person in your pics, you didn't bathe and you put your back hair in a ponytail (it happened!), then you owe me gas money, plus punitive damages. Just sayin!
I am unique, strong willed, determined, respect myself and have always chosen to live my life as a good example for my kids (ages now are: 27,26, 24 and 23}, my family, friends and searching for a man with the same character, ethics and morals. I am someone who is careful of whom I invite into my life as I am big on healthy relationships. I am more of an actions speak louder than words, mean what you say, say what you mean, does the right thing when no one is looking; a Christian who has a relationship with God. My love languages are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.
I have some country/redneck girl in me and while living in Canton, Texas, I broke horses, barrel raced, fished (love it!) and enjoyed boating life. I am a movie buff, family oriented, a positive leader, hard worker, honest, fiercely loyal, faithful, sincere & have a young spirit. I have been known to get sassy in ..10 seconds. Never been in jail, no wrap sheet, never tried drugs, smoked or used antidepressants and have used alcohol sparingly since I first tried it (spiked drink) at age 40. I rarely drink but when I do, my favorite is a frozen peach Bellini with whipped cream.. Never will try beer.. It smells! If you smoke when you drink, you are indeed a smoker and this is a deal breaker as well as dipping snuff.
A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think. If a woman over 40 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do, and it's usually more interesting. Women over 40 are dignified and seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot your butt if they think they can get away with it. Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved for they know what it's like to be unappreciated. Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart. Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk if you are acting like one. You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her. Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
In our quest for happiness we must be sure that we don't settle for a playmate when God has a soulmate waiting for us. Sometimes this is a hard distinction to make. Playmates are tricky. They are so much fun to be with that even the smartest of us will be fooled into thinking this has to be our soulmate. Worse yet, too many of us attempt to make a soulmate out of a playmate. The danger of this is that later (after years of playing) we will meet our soulmate, but it may be too late then. We may have already made a lifemate of our playmate and created life-long bonds (emotional, children, etc.). Or we may have been hurt from playing so hard that we are in no shape ourselves to be anyone's anything.
How can we distinguish between the one, and just another one? First, we must be open with ourselves about who we really are and what our soul yearns for. Only you and God know what is truly in your heart and mind. Only you know what will make you truly happy and whole. In order to find your soulmate you have to know you, first. You must be willing to listen to that inner voice. And is that voice telling you that the nerdy person you enjoy talking and sharing your thoughts with, could be he? What about that friend who is always willing to go the extra mile for you when no one else will. Oh no! He's too short or too tall, balding or too hairy, and on and on? Just too ordinary looking for me! Then there's that girl who makes you feel so special when you're around her, but she doesn't match that ideal you have conjured in your head. She's too tall, not slender enough, not light or dark enough, not shapely enough, not attractive enough, and on and on. She just couldn't be for me... He or she is going to treat you like the jewel that you are. Not only that, his or her soul and yours will commune in ways you never imagined possible! In order to heed that voice, we have to put on the back burner our own superficial thinking. Could it be that your inner desire is for a truly genuine person with a good heart?
If you enjoy playing, stay on the playground. There are plenty of playmates out there to occupy your time. But don't spend too much time playing or you may play your life away. Eventually the playing loses it's appeal and your soul begins to crave a deeper, more meaningful connection.
Your soul begins to crave your soulmate.