The arts have always been the defining force of my personal life. For several years, I acted on stage and performed with amateur and professional choral groups, having the time of my life. Now I'm having the time of my life dancing (swing, tango, and blues). While the particular arts have changed, the constant involvement hasn't. You'll get frustrated with me unless you share the same love -- not necessarily for the same arts, but for the arts about which you're passionate.
While I would love it if you wanted to join me in dancing, that's not a prerequisite. However, you may as well know ahead of time I'm not quitting dancing for you (and wouldn't want you to leave behind something you loved for me).
Books aren't an obsession: they're oxygen. I'll take you to a used book store, find something you "absolutely HAVE to read", and read out of it to you in public. (Oh, yeah. Hope you like attention, flowers, etc., because if you don't you'll get tired of me REALLY quickly.)
Music. Ahh, music. Sorry, but forewarned is forearmed: if you like raucous, screamy, loud, obnoxious music, you won't like me. I've tried to make relationships work in the face of dramatically-different musical tastes, and music is too central to me and to girls I hit it off with to allow fundamental differences in taste to work. If, however, your tastes fall somewhere from classical to jazz to Broadway to Regina Spektor, Lenka, and Enya, you're in luck!
Like coffee? Love coffee? Neeeeeed coffffffeeeee . . . ?
Seriously. I'll roast you some. Pick your poison. Sumatra, Ethiopia, Brazil, Tanzania, Uganda? You'll like it. *grin*
I expect a relationship (even if the "relationship" is simply a single date) to be entirely two-way. I put myself unreservedly into a relationship, and I expect the same: honesty, forthrightness, and true concern.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
There're first dates and first dates. If we'd never met before, I'd probably want to do something like go for coffee, or maybe dancing (especially with some other friends). Something that'd let us talk, get to know each other, and figure out if there's any chemistry.
If we'd known each other for a while, I'd probably go for an evening out for dinner and dancing. Or maybe a concert, with coffee or drinks afterwards.
Mostly, I want us both to enjoy each other's company and have a chance to talk about things we enjoy, that amuse us, and that touch us.