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If you answered "yes" to all of the above questions, save yourself a mild migraine, and move on to the next profile. Otherwise, I humbly ask you to read on.
I don't want to fit love into my life...
I am 32 years old. I've tasted the kiss of excess on many occasions in my life. I've been "fortunate" enough to attain the common dreams of many. I've devoted years of my life to chasing the unattainable, while running from the inevitable. Of the most affluent treasures savored in days passed, none yielded greater sanctuary and refuge within, than the now seemingly short period in my life when love had found me. In my decade of decadence however, I've eroded to some degree and can only hope I haven't lost the part of me that once secured what I seek today.
I am a hero to some, and yet a villain to others. I've moved and inspired many, and yet at times it seems... hurt just as many. I am in tune with my faults and flaws. I stand tall, and refuse to let the weight of the world shake my foundation.
I often find many of the women on this site filling their profiles with lists of "He must have/be ________" vs. "He must not _______". I too, have days where I feel I'm "the cake", seeking out that icing to compliment me. However, in all truth, having once been in love, I fully realize that all mindsets one may have while "out of love" quickly become nothing more than a distant memory once that feeling sets in, for nothing changes a human being more radically, than love. Alas, when I do find what I'm after... I'll neither be the icing, nor the cake. At best, I'll be one tiny element within, macerating in the substance around me.
I'm not holding out for a woman who'll never hurt me. Everyone in your life will at one point or another hurt you... it simply comes down to deciding who's worth the pain.
I won't delve into 'high-standards' rhetoric. Your body, mind & soul- all that you are combined, are like a bank account. The more you put into it- the more you can afford to buy. Most people in the dating world however, tend to "window shop", saying they won't settle for anything less than a L. Vuitton or Prada, when all their balance can afford, is Guess or Roots.
Above all else, I hold out for one single quality: a woman's ability to inspire me. Whether it's your compassion, or your vision. Your perserverance or your distinction. Be it your tendency to speak when others fall silent, or your refusal to yield to conventional doctrines, your ability to inspire will ultimately secure your ability to aquire. If, like many in our culture today, you're the kind of person who takes everything at face value, believe all you hear and see on TV, and have little or no knowledge of the significance of what happened in Berlin in 1989, or in China the very same year, or Rwanda in the late 90s (to name a few random events most of us should have read about, instead of reading about Britney, or Tinkerbell), or... you believe the "war on terrorism" really is a war against "terrorists", or you can tell me more about Roberto Cavalli, Dolce & Gabbana, or Prada than you can about what truly drives your aspirations, with all due respect, we've already dated or met at a local night club- and I'm sorry, but it's not working out. ;)
Simple minds, discuss people. Average minds, discuss places. Great minds, discuss ideas.
Having made love to a thousand women does not a real man make. Making love to one woman in a thousand ways does. I'm aware of the fact that in the western culture our approach to sexuality is often a tainted one at best. The fine line between intimacy and sexuality has been marred, and few see a difference (there is a world of a difference between the two). If/when approached correctly- both are a salacious engagement to say the least, whether on their own or combined. However, if you're a woman who fails to differentiate between the two and have used "sex" to gain "intimacy" (just as many men will use "intimacy" to get "sex") chances are, we're not on the same page.
A few traits I do wish to find in a woman include:
A quality that seemingly has gone the way of Vinyl and VCRs. I've always believed that the easiest way to appraise the value of one's character, is by noting how they treat those who can do nothing for them. Prudent compassion will always get my attention.
A bit on the lighter side... I love engaging in sharp/witty dialogue and I've yet to find my match: a woman who can leave me speechless or at a loss for words. Succeed in this field and I'm yours for the taking.
Emotions- like a bottle of vintage Port, take years to mature. I don't have all the answers and I'm not certain whether that which I seek I can offer myself. My assessment in this matter means nothing for we all give ourselves more credit than we deserve. I can assure you however, that the brand of emotional maturity & integrity I bring to a relationship is unparallelled by most males.
I generally live my life in the fast lane. I seldom plan and am known for on the spot decision making. While I don't hold out for similiar qualities in a woman, at least her ability to tolerate such is important.
As is generally the case in life, small print applies here as well. I travel often for business (especially during the cold Canadian winter months). I simply wish to be upfront. Nothing however, is set in stone. While the last few winters have seen me migrate to warm parts of the world to escape the cold and engage in the expansion of my business, in all truth, no sunny beaches laden with white sands can ever parallel the warmth of a loving woman.
Many here place high emphasis on first impressions. To me, first impressions are meaningless. The only impression I care about, is the last one you leave on me.
I don't want to fit love into my life. I want to fit my life, into love.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
An ideal first date? That's easy. If at the end of that date we're both dyin' to taste each other's lips, to savor that first kiss... Marinating in wild anticipation, uncertain whether it will happen or not. If that state has been reached, everything that led up to it was perfect: whether as simple as sitting on a country side porch, chatting for hours- or attending the grand opening of a five star cooking studio atop a highrise in a foreign city.