ToastedL: Strong on outside; soft & chewy inside
Non-Smoker with A Few Extra Pounds body type
Clovis, California
45 year old Female, < 5' (< 152 cm), Christian - other
Other Ethnicity, Cancer
ToastedL anything.

I am Seeking a Man For Friends
Needs Test Not Completed Chemistry View her chemistry results
Do you drink? Socially Do you want children? Undecided/Open
Marital Status Divorced Do you do drugs? No
Hair Color Brown Eye Color Other
Do you have a car? Prefer Not To Say Do you have children? Yes
Longest Relationship
Pets No Pets  

About Me
Who I am: I am a 33-year old intelligent, strong woman, with a delicate and pure heart inside. I have twin boys who will turn 2 in March 2007. They are the magic in my life. I was a double major in English and Philosophy in undergraduate, and a juris doctor in graduate school. I am an employment attorney in the United States.

I admit I am a perfectionist. It's what has given me my drive to get to where I am. I've been described as caring, nice, thoughtful, funny, honest, kind-hearted, pain-in-the-a** (oops, ignore that one), generous, and other adjectives which really can't say too much online. Simply put, I'm genuine and good-hearted. I love to make others happy. I love my family and friends. I believe in soulmates - both in terms of love and friendships. I believe in constantly working to become a better person. I believe in fun - variety is the spice of life. I like to cook and throw close get-togethers. I enjoy good sci-fi (go Doctor Who and Battlestar Gallactica), a nice cup of tea with milk, and a group game of Taboo.

What I'm Looking For Here: Friendships, Email/Chat-Buddies, Dating, Relationship, etc. (pretty open-minded, aside from just sex).

What I Don't Want In A Man (hang on - this is honest!): An absence of character, a concept which I know is pretty hard to describe. Character is a sign of inner strength and emotional intelligence. Words that are in opposition to the concept of character include cowardice, weakness, immorality, selfishness, and "no honor", and "no self-confidence." I don't want a man that needs a mother or a cheerleader (at least not most of the time). I don't want a man who is afraid of himself, life, new experiences, or other simple things. I want a "strong" man (mainly on the inside). But note: Being sensitive, kind, romantic, and the like are wonderful traits (aka, not the shallow, macho man).

What I Do Want In A Man: 4 required traits - Honesty, Intelligence, Honor, and Sense of Humor.

Honesty: I am an adult. I expect my partner to be an adult. No games, lies, cheating, or be dishonesty. I believe in communcation, compromise, and understanding. Everyone says they want honesty, but I require it. Why waste time otherwise? I give 100% honesty and respect. I want the same back.

Intelligence: I have two bachelor degrees and a law degree. I'm intelligent, hungry, and passionate about many things in life. I love to learn. I don't like to be closed minded. I don't require my partner to have similar degrees, of course, but I do need him to be intelligent and challenging. Obviously, intelligence comes in many forms. I enjoy conversations, but not just about the weather ;) Intelligence also encompasses other related topics - such as life goals and professional status, etc.

Honor: I'm not talking about opening car doors - that's romantic and appreciated, of course. I'm talking about character. I am very passionate, empathic, loving, trustworthy, and honorable. I do the right thing. I let my heart guide me through life. I can be trusted. I want the same thing in my partner. My values can't be compromised. Honor also encompasses other topics, such as love of family, sacrifice, justice, etc.

Sense of Humor: My partner doesn't have to be a clown or a stand up comic. He doesn't have to have British sarcasm or wit (although that's enjoyable - and I do admit, I adore accents from the U.K.). A part of me is a child at heart - and that part loves to laugh and smile. I want my partner to laugh and smile with me. Simply put, I want to enjoy life with my partner.

NOW, that's not TOO difficult is it?

Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
A first date depends on many things, of course, but here's one fun first date that I've had and wouldn't mind repeating - a trip to a carnival or amusement park.

Amusement parks can provide all the elements to really get to know someone. First there's casual walking and browsing through exhibits, shops, entertainment, etc. That's when we could talk and see how much we had in common (although you don't need to be the same to click).

Then we would have lunch - see how daring we are, how we share, how we eat (manners are nice to note), and the level of open-mindedness about little things.

Next, there are the overpriced and ridiculously hard games with silly little prizes. But will you play and try to win something for me - the gesture and act is more worthwhile to experience than the actual victory with a prize. Can we play some games together and have fun trying? And how would you like it if I try to win something too?

Then, the rides. Will you let loose and try or enjoy a few rides? The biggest one is the one you hate - if I like it, how will you react? How do you handle a terrifying roller coaster ride (curses, laughs, cowers, or plunges into it)?

Then, as the date ends, how do we wind down the day and leave the night? What is the conversation like, our tones, the topic, the behavior?

Or we could just "go to Starbucks" like everybody else. LOL.

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