having been here a while a couple times, i doubt it will amount to anything. i think its more likely to cross pathes with someone in 'real life.' but you never know, right? instead tend to 'hang out' on the poetry forums which can no longer be accessed from this side of the site. you can get there at http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingForum6.aspx
for what it is worth, i am 5-9, around 175 pounds, thin to average though getting fatter as i get older. guess i am slowing down and that gravity works. light brown hair on the longish side, have a graying beard. Wear glasses, but only to see. i deal with a fair amount of joint pain in bad weather and if it wasnt for being a stubborn SOB, i probably wouldnt get around much in the winter. so instead, i grunt alot and get around just fine.
I write grants for a living, am pretty much a homebody (some may say hermit), and am a tad off the grid.
what i like?
"Novelists": Kurt Vonnegut, Cormac McCarthy, Umberto Eco, Louis De Bernieres, Dostoyevseky, Hunter Thompson, William Burroughs, Herman Melville, Mark Twain, Dr, Seuss (in no particular order)
Song Writers: also not in any particular order- Leonard Cohen, Tom Waits, Bob Dylan, Lou Reed, Patti Smith, Bruce Springsteen, Van Morrison, Neil Young
Religion: Bokononism, though i was 'raised' catholic. Actually, i think jesus got it right and that it was his followers who created the pyramid scheme called the papacy and evangelicals who want to castigate everyone but themselves to hell that f-cked it all up. Like how can Bush say jesus is a favorite philosopher and be pro death penalty? and how is forming a militia to kill cops in rural america christlike exactly? even if they are cops, gimme a break! So I thank god i am athiest. personally, i think that the church and the insurance industry have alot in common and should both be indicted on RICO charges.
Politics: I am an anarchist at heart but i know that it would never work. Fear, greed and pride are just too pervasive in humankind for it to happen. So i settle for being hopelessly liberal. In fact, i have spent my whole adult life trying to raise the bottom. while i see hand-outs as necessary (on good days i think i help people, on bad days i think i am in the business of riot prevention), i prefer putting my efforts into empowerment. i used to get depressed over the lack of progess on social justice issues, but over the years i have learned that the value of doing whats right isnt so much about the short term outcomes as it is about affecting lives and spreading hope. If you think that everyone can simply hoist themselves up by their bootstraps without ever having slept under a bridge in NYC and think you know god better than 2/3's of the world's population, go sleep under a bridge then call me. we are not gonna get along.
College Sports Mascot: An old online friend lives in Arkansas so i bought a hat with their logo during the college world series. Looking at it, i realized there is something rather symbolic about a big angry red charging pig. Actually i dont follow college sports. I thought college was for learning stuff, playing hacky sack, taking over administration buildings, and getting way too drunk and high. But that was very long ago and now serves as fodder for humorous storytelling.
Music I listen to: i am seriously eclectic. rock, punk, blues, jazz, latin, americana, select outlaw country, old soul and motown. i find it hard to tolerate opera and rap though. all whining and chest pounding it seems to me.
Music I play: music by white guys from the '70's who can't sing either: neil young, the Band, Johnny Cash, the Dead, the Eagles, Dylan, tom waits, tom petty, bruce springsteen, willie nelson, easy eric clapton, lynyrd skynyrd, some crap i wrote (i play some guitar on camping trips and back yard parties here and there; a sample of what i have written? i will send that too if you ask politely).
Sense of Purpose: teaching my daughter that the biggest hurdles we face in life are the ones we unconsciously construct for ourselves. Anonymously finding the resources for people to have what most of us take for granted. Things like a place to live and safe drinking water.
Hobbies: playing guitar, writing (lyrics, poetry, narratives, letters to the editor, etc), cooking, making some things out of nothings (furniture out of recycled wood, gourmet meals from whats in the fridge, puppets out of socks with no mate, etc).
what makes me unique: wrong question. that is easy. the question is what the hell am i doing here and will i ever find a place to fit in?
what i want: someone who has a past, loves the present, yet simultaneously is thinking "would i enjoy being with this person on a porch somewhere 20 years from now?" maybe thats wierd, i dunno, thats how i look at it. I know that most won't 'get' me or won't want me. That is fine.
i have pix and will send them. i just dont want to post them. just because i am paranoid doesnt mean 'They' are not out to get me! Actually, i live and work in a region of rather small communities and let's face it, everyone out there is, umm, not particularly well balanced. And no, just because you recognized me on POF doesnt entitle you to subsidized housing. (These things happen, believe it or not).
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Try to get to know you a little better. I am not much for crowds or raging a-holes and i am a rather crappy dancer, so 'clubbing' is out. While going to see a good band may be fun down the line, i am pretty much half deaf so unless you want me to sit there staring at you trying to read your lips screaming "what?", its probably not a good idea for a 1st date. I am also rather repulsed by consumerism so wandering around a mall could result in a panic attack and a socialist tirade. but a resturaunt or a pub with good food, or a cafe or an art museum or a country fair or a hike with or without our dogs would be about my speed. And as a dad, i know that our children come first. I dont think its particularly appropriate to involve children of any age in the initial phase of a potential relationship. Down the road, cool, i love doing 'kid stuff,' but out of respect for them, lets leave them out of it. Which leads to the point that it is important to be friends first. They are the ones that help us not take a bullet, so they are more important, right?