I am looking for a very special man who has an innate sense of himself, has lived through life's challenges and developed perspective on the things that really matter. I'm a grown woman and I'm looking for a grown man. I am smart, focused, fit and strong. I want to continue to build a good life but with someone by my side who understands that good relationships take commitment and work and can be the source of our greatest joy.
I'm vulnerable, as having an open heart requires, but I am neither weak nor naive. I'm looking for a man who will ruin my lipstick...not my mascara....yea.....
Some of the most important things I know: * Dont regret the past. At one time it was exactly what you wanted.. * No matter how bad things are at any one moment, no moment lasts....good or bad, time moves on because it has to, and so do you. * You change for two reasons; either you learn enough that you want to or you've been through enough that you have to * Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass.. it's about learning to dance in the rain.. * Be kind to everyone, you never know what kind of battle they are fighting * Some Say..Love isn't always enough. It's ultimately all there is. You go without it long enough and you realize it's everything. * Sometimes when you hold out for everything.. you walk away with nothing * Life is about trusting your feelings & taking risks, losing and finding happiness, appreciating the chances taken, the ample gifts received, learning the lessons & realizing that people are basically the same......human....flawed.....hopeful...
I'm capable of focusing on someone to truly explore their character and gifts. If you are as well, I look forward to hearing from you.
Honesty on profiles is horribly lacking so there is something you need to know if you're still interested. My gorgeous red hair? I wear a wig. A well controlled health condition cost me hair of any length. If that's as issue for you...good luck...there are plenty of women here to chose from.
I also must add that physical distance is a real factor in whether I will consider meeting someone. I had a remarkable relationship with a man I met here a few years ago, and we made a valiant effort to overcome a 2 hour commute. It ultimately was the primary factor in our ending things because neither of us could/would move. If you're more than a 40-50 minute drive in NJ traffic I can't consider it. I also can't cross the Hudson on a regular basis. I've learned this lesson.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Coffee, a long talk, a long walk..........