I mostly only have a profile here so that I can get involved in the forum banter, although these days the forums are pretty quiet.
POF in a nutshell, some 200 male profiles to every female profile, fake profiles on all sides (because "hey why not, it's free?"), 5% of profiles do indeed get 99% of contacts/messages, most of those are players, scammers or aspiring models hoping to be spotted by agents, whilst I see that all the normal people get treated like lepers, end up getting angry and leaving.
On the plus side, if you don't allow yourself to have delusional expectations, you can actually meet some brilliant "normal" people!
Back by popular demand....... It's the WALL OF TEXT!!! muhahaha! >:p
Firstly, It seems part of social human behaviour to make assumptions and jump to crazy conclusions, so lets put some of those to bed shall we?
Long hair doesn't mean i'm work shy, it simply means I don't subscribe to being a carbon copy of everyone else.
Photography doesn't mean I photograph half naked women and it certainly doesn't make me a paedo or a terrorist (wtf is wrong with some people?).
Being close to my family doesn't mean i'm a "mommys boy" (I actually have my own home and my own life).
I don't aspire to the "middle class dream" of a middle management job, in debt u pto my eyeballs, a gated 4 bedroom house, 3 kids, 4 German cars, a dog, a pony and a bunch of superficial "friends".
Now you have a choice, if you have the genuine capacity for independent thought, and look at the above thinking "wow this guy is f**king amazing", then read on ;)
Oh... I'm also a Gemini btw, the birth date is wrong and apparently im not allowed to change it...... I personally don't put much faith in star signs or horoscopes, or omnipresent sky fairies. I don't need moral guidance to live my life the right way, but some people do and that's fine by me.
I'm fun to be with, slightly loopy at times (but rather sensible when I need to be), i'm not big on the alcohol, but I do like the odd pint of proper cider.
I'm a highly practical and caring kinda guy, I have the drive and ambition to achieve what I want to achieve, I have my own house, I have a half decent job, material possessions mean very little to me and i'd often rather make something than buy something.
I've done things the hard way, no slacking off, no "gap yah" backpacking, no "helping" poor people in Africa by posting hundreds of instagrammed photos of myself all over social media and then doing all that "virtue signalling" BS.
I like fun/bouncy and intelligent people, these people allow me the freedom to be myself without the worry of offending anyone!
"fun/bouncy" doesn't mean "dumb and screechy", just want to make that perfectly clear. I've spent many a lunch time at work listening to young ladies screaming with laughter of the most mundane of things, wondering how the human race can possibly survive another 100 years, i'm glad i'm not 15+ years younger.
I'm an engineer by profession and by passion, this means i'm not an optimist, i'm not a pessimist, my glass is never half full or half empty, the glass is simply too big. Engineering permeates through my life, it's a hobby, it's a profession, it's a religion.
I can be very light hearted, I suffer with Anatidaephobia and I'm always looking for the answers to serious QUESTIONS IN LIFE, LIKE WHY IS MY CAPSLock stu... Ah... Never mind! Panic over! Nothing to see here!!!!! :)
I have no problem at all with children, but unfortunately I cannot tolerate bad parenting or for that matter anyone that uses their children as a weapon, or as an excuse for everything from failed relationships to an inability to drive a car properly. Controversial perhaps, but that's me.
I like animals, I'd have a dog tomorrow (probably a German shepard or a crazy black lab) if not for my work hours! I think it's a bit cruel to keep animals locked away for 9 hours of the day. Cat's are fine as long as they're not climbing on my face at 3am, though i'd make an exception for catwoman...... and suddenly we're in the gutter :p
I like a good night out or in, I like to go for a meal/fun with a group of friends and you'll find me at the Pool hall (mixing with the local wildlife) most Wednesday evenings, but to relax I need quiet time, which can mean anything from chilling out in front of the TV to doing the mad scientist thing in my workshop.
Also love to get out for a bit of wander in the country or explore new places with my camera in tow, like.... I sometimes explore and photograph abandoned buildings, industrial sites, hospitals, derelict structures and other places that time forgot.
You can't apply stereotype's or put me in a neat little box, you may try, everyone tries, everyone fails...... :p
What or who would I be looking for? what's my type? tough question!
We'll start with intelligent, friendly, caring, affectionate, someone I can really connect with.
Looks, well I think self respect is important! Happy and confident (not fake), a genuine smile is always attractive...... Duck face is never attractive (and neither is this "fish gape" business), in the event of duck face I may throw a loaf of stale bread in the general direction of said duck face in the hope that said duck face might stop said duckfacery.
The ideal would be warm, kind hearted, non-man hating, non-bitter or maybe just non-British...... Surely this isn't too unrealistic? :p
I'm not the jealous type at all, I feel that jealousy should never occur in a happy/trusting partnership... But I do take an interest in a partners life in just the same way a good friend would. I notice the little things (although it may not seem like it), the little quirks, but I don't make a huge fuss over them. My relaxed attitude and trusting nature has been abused in the past, but I won't change that side of me just because of a few "bad eggs"!
Still here? If you've got this far you've done well and I commend your bravery :D
Now I do know some of you think "the guy should make that first move", but i'm not prepared to play this whole sending messages, being ignored, feeling like a leper "game". If someone takes the time to message me, I think that shows strength of character, and I feel it's only polite to answer back.