I’m not shallow or the typical guy (which seems to be actually detrimental to making successful connections). I think women are precious. As a result, I am not interested in the promiscuous, since we would have little in common. According to Susan Cain's book, Quiet, I have a lot more to offer than I thought. However, social butterflies may be disappointed, since the most fulfilling connection to me is the one with my significant other. Also, those who require frequent "adventures" may find me boring, since I think the greatest possible adventure one can go on is gazing into a lover's eyes and completely losing yourself. I think a sense of humour is the most important thing in a person. The Ramayana says that although everything else is an illusion, the three realities are God, Human folly, and Laughter. Since we can do nothing about the first two, we are left with the third.
Although it's always possible that I could be "surprised by joy," it just seems the vast majority value external sources of stimulation (adventure, socializing, etc.). Of course, these all have their places, but I think too many of us prioritize these *above* self awareness and authenticity. I think Pascal had a timeless point when he said, "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone." If you're incapable of this, I can see why I wouldn't appeal to you. But for you're own fulfillment, I recommend slowing down and getting to know yourself. By the way, anyone who says, "No thanks; I know who I am," you're actually facing the wrong direction. Again, if you want fun and excitement instead of meaning and romance then more power to you. But, please, for the sake of us old souls, avoid misrepresenting yourselves--distraction can be useful but it should never be confused with depth. To that end, I'd need to become friends first.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
One during which occasional silences are not awkward. I love stimulating conversations, good movies, books, and music, but more than anything, I love being comfortable with someone to the extent that we can sit still, hold hands, and enjoy a quiet peace.