I'm terrible at dating. All the calculated politeness, the trivial banter, the small talk, the 20 questions that start with 'what do you do' and 'where are you from'. It makes my mind numb. I want to skip ahead to the good stuff - your wonders, your hopes, your fears, and dig down to the dark, gritty soul of you.
I am a thinker. I think fast, talk slow, and act impulsively. I can be indecisive but once I make up my mind, I am resolute. I rarely look backward, never have regrets, and don't care to wonder what if. I think that moving consistently and constantly forward is a good thing as long as we don't forget that dancing around in circles is fun too.
Infinite growth and intimacy is possible, but not in an infinite number of relationships. You have only so much time and energy, so you have to decide which relationships matter most.
If you are going to have extraordinary relationships, then you have to decide to make them a priority by allocating significant time and energy to them.
Energy is our most valuable resource, not time.
Why should you take a chance w/me?
I can form a full sentence - The only drama I enjoy is on TV or in a book - I wont care when you look at that girl - I'll help you find your keys - I'll always be impressed with how manly you are - I got suspended in high school once - I know that handcuffs aren't just for cops - I won't steal the drugs out of your medicine cabinet - My heart will jump every time I see you - I can be ready in 30 minutes or less - I'll love anything you ever give me - I've never auditioned for American Idol - I smell good - I've never been on Jerry Springer or Maury - I like my hair pulled - We can watch your movie first (even better if it's a zombie flick) - I think it's hot when you come home sweaty from the gym - I cook perfect bacon, although that's about the only thing I cook perfectly - I'll rarely get jealous - I've never been on Americas Most Wanted - I've got secret tattoos and piercings - My kisses are breathtaking - My weird habits are entertaining- I'd do Angelina Jolie too- I'll laugh at every joke, out loud even (although I might be laughing AT you)- My family is just as messed up as yours - I'd never give you grief in front of your friends - Use as much salt as you want - I don't tear the tags off my mattresses 'til I get home - I won't do your friends or your brother - I'll look cute in your shirt - You're more interesting than anyone I know- I'll show you my girly bits in public when nobody's looking - I'm really good at sneaking food into the movies - I'll never say nothing is wrong when there is - Your chest fits perfectly under my chin - I may have already won $10,000,000 - You won't be able to get me out of your head/heart - I would never make you go get tampons - The only reason I would kick you out of the bed is to do you on the floor - I know how to keep a secret - I am sometimes and usually unintentionally funny - I don't care if you eat off my plate.
What am I looking for?
How very lucky I would be to meet someone who has an insatiable and voracious appetite for all things. A curiosity that can't be quenched. An ability to talk, listen, laugh and love the world around them. A willingness to always try new things, a couple of times even just in case that really awesome or really horrible experience was a fluke. An adventurous and kinky nature that bubbles right below the surface that not everyone gets to see. A selective slut, so to speak.
Someone I can adore, lust after and respect that will offer than same in return. Someone who can appreciate the idea of dating with intent. Intent to get to know, intent to progress if enough interest, curiosity and chemistry is garnered. Intent to blend lives, love and sensuality. Intent to build a friendship that could possibly lead to more. Sex is easy and can be found with a wink and a grin. Intimacy is what I seek. Care about the world around you? Have a bit of geek in the mix? Enjoy rabid thunderstorms and blazing sun rises? Feel passionate about something, anything? Want to take the time to truly get to know another that piques your interest on a deeper level than a wink a grin? Know how to communicate openly and honestly? Then you might be someone that I want to get to know.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Expectations are what drive me insane. It's a simple thing really. You go on a date w/someone and the only expectation should be to have a good time. No list needs to be gone over, it's too early to try to see if there is life long compatibility and no, I don't want to do you regardless of how much dinner was (even though odds are I paid for my own - and trust me, if I do want to do you I will totally let you know). Let's laugh and have a good time. Let's talk about things that we have in common or argue about the things that we don't. Let's take the time to listen to the other person instead of just waiting for our turn to talk or spouting off random bs to try and seem cool. Laugh with me and relax - I promise I'll blow off my girlfriend when she calls for the "just in case you need an excuse to leave" call/facetious and I'll want to go on another date.