People don't interact with strangers at random as much as I'd like. These days, everyone has their headphones in and pretend to be distracted by their smartphones because actually talking to that stone cold fox with whom you exchange flirtatious eye contact a couple of times a week is a lot more intimidating that any of us want to admit. It's all... risky and junk. And I don't have a ton of extra time to throw around being nervous about determining whether or not a dude is even available. So, here we are, and we've already got the "actively interested in meeting someone" card on the table. Sweet.
I'm an unconventional hopeless romantic sprinkled with skepticism... oxymoron? Maybe. I am the dictionary definition of sensual. I love to get my smooch on, cuddle, spoon, caress, massage, etc. Chemistry counts for a lot with me, and I appreciate a man who isn't afraid to make that groundbreaking first move to get the ball rolling. I generally enjoy being close to people. I have a top secret scalp massage that will have you asleep in under a minute... then again, I could just be using this as an excuse to touch you. You never can tell.
I HATE talking on the phone. See: http://theoatmeal.com/comics/phone
I like playful confidence, with a side of self-deprecation. I am attracted to a man with strong shoulders, a solid sense of humour, thoughtful eyes and a great smile. I love a good beard, and a full set of lips. I do intend to use them. Callouses on your fingertips, bodacious hair, sense of personal style, well-executed tattoos- all a plus. The taller and bigger the dude, the daintier I feel, so I do have a tendency toward men who are quite tall, although I won't exclude someone of a more average stature. I'm more attracted to someone carrying around a little extra than a super thin or lean gentleman, but this isn't a steadfast rule. I am more likely to consider someone on the higher end of the age range I've specified, as my lifestyle is not super compatible with that of the average 24 year old guy, 350 days of the year, although I do let loose when the mood strikes.
You should prefer a girl who carries her curves well and with confidence, who isn't afraid to be blunt and sometimes inappropriate, and whose child is an amazing extension of her life and not "baggage".
I never got that sultry sex-kitten thing down. I have more of a cute, girl-next-door thing going on. I am the kind of girl that takes more than that first glance to really feel the attraction, and I consider that a positive attribute. Never underestimate the adorable. We might surprise you.
It's important to me that everyone knows I'm a mom first and a friend and lover second.
This does present certain concerns about initiating a relationship. I am not looking to turn you into a co-parent. However, being a regular part of my life means that you are bound to impact my son's from time to time, sooner or later, and thusly, it is crucial that the people in my life make an effort to make that a positive impact when the opportunity arises. If you are not open to having him around and getting to know him, it probably won't work out. He gets most of my time, and I like it that way.
If you've come this far, and I'm still attractive, send me a goddamn message. Worst that can happen is I'll answer with something totally politely dismissive, right? That's what internet dating is for.
I'm also an INFJ. http://typelogic.com/infj.html
I finally moved back to BC after 5 long years of living in Calgary. Gross, I know. Raised in East Van, and anxious to get back!
Some summary, would anyone like my credit report and a timeline to accompany my thorough biography?
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Nothing breaks the ice like watching someone fumble with chopsticks. Or watching someone watch me fumble with chopsticks. I like when we can hold real conversation.
A local rock show would make a *sweet* first date.