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1. The second thing that you will notice about me is that I am very, very intelligent. Yet, I can be a real klutz/dork at times. For the most part, I have a brain and I am not afraid or ashamed to use it;
2. Educated (2 post-graduate degrees with Honors that are completely unrelated to what I do now);
3. Exceptionally self motivated and self disciplined. I've accomplished some pretty cool things in my life, but still tell myself, "It's not what you did yesterday or a year ago that matters. It's what you are doing right here, right now and what you are going to do next." Yes, I talk to myself. All the time. It's called self-criticism;
4. Traveled (Western Europe, almost all of the off-the-beaten-path US);
5. I can be a paradox, but only to those who must divide the world into neat, binary bins. At the same time, I am simple/complex; WYSIWYG/subtle; highly perceptive/a "guy"; logical/intuitive (Spock meets Hellboy?);
6. Possess a .05% of the population sense of humor. If you've listened to a Robin Williams stand-up improv and kept up, yeah, we're talkin' like that...
I am almost always:
Introverted; highly intuitive and perceptive; soft-spoken; an exceptional listener; acutely attuned to my surroundings in real time, not in the abstract sense; a lifelong student of people and behavior; a student of military history and rest-of-the-world current events.
What I am not:
1. Perfect. I have flaws. They are what make us unique, interesting and attractive. If you seek perfection, please click on the next profile.
2. A culinary genius. I make a really ****in' cup of coffee in the morning, but I would starve without a microwave;
3. Independently wealthy. With the exception of my Freshman and Sophomore school years at college, I have pretty much been working since I was 12. I have yet to figure out how to get rich at it;
4. Politically correct. One of the benefits of being older is I have experienced suppression of thought (political correctness) in many different forms, flavors and degrees of self righteousness;
5. Tolerant of stupid, self-centered/inconsiderate behavior. Yes, I know that there are a lot of _ssh_les in the world; that doesn't justify being or becoming one! I still hold doors open, give up my seat in shuttles/busses, and rarely curse in public.
(1) Are intelligent. You have a brain and know how to use it. The term "critical thinking" is not obscene to you.
(2) Are emotionally mature and reasonably stable. If you privately chuckle at the things you used to do, you'll understand. If your medicine cabinet has a copy of the PDR in it, please seek professional help.
(3) Perceptive. You are not easily distracted by bright, sparkly objects and see through the hype, deeply into the human condition.
(4) A unique combination of independent/traditional. You, like me, are perfectly capable of functioning without a significant other. You don't "need" anyone. You choose to be with someone. Yes, your friends may call you "picky", but you'd rather go it alone than lower your standards. You can be that tomboy next door who fixes her own plumbing and fuses AND the very feminine lady that you are. If the number of running / hiking / mud shoes and boots in your closet equals the number of pumps and high heels, you're good to go.
(5) Reasonably attractive. If you take more than an hour to get ready for anything other than your funeral, it's probably already over with.
(6) Reasonably slender and fit. You're not neurotic about your appearance / weight, but you take care of yourself.
(7) Noncompetitive. If you choose to be competitive, it's in an open, honest way rather than that other way...
(8) Have had an unconventional path/life/profession, but wouldn't trade most of your life's experiences for anything.
(9) You are articulate, but intuitively know that there's a time that words fail, and it's time to be quiet, close your eyes, and let the touch of skin on skin speak the truth of how you feel.
(10) You allow yourself the unadulterated rush of adrenaline on occasion, but prefer to experience life without having your perceptions altered by drugs or excessive use of alcohol.
(11) Here's the tough one: The Nihonjin have an old saying, "The tenderness of a warrior." You have endured much, triumphed and failed, and are now at a place where you consciously choose to be open and somewhat vulnerable, mentally and emotionally, because you know that you have already endured the worst and the cost of wearing emotional "armor" for the rest of your life will keep you from experiencing the rest of your life. You are secure enough with who you are at this point in your life that you experience life again with the innocence and wonder of an un-jaded child.
You consider each moment spent with your special friend a mutual gift given to each other, that cannot be repeated or replaced. You understand that quiet moments without words can be more emotionally powerful and meaningful than 50 yard line tickets at the Superbowl.
Extra points if you:
Speak a foreign language fluently (French preferred - it always eluded me);
Can boil water without burning it;
Know how to drive a manual transmission;
Can teach me how to Samba and Tango;
Could give a sh_t less about professional sports;
Truly appreciate live performances of classical music, jazz, dance, and world music.
If you point me towards a real sushiya, I will forever be in your debt. You know that California roll is not sushi.
Really big bonus points if you are currently serving or have served (an authentic respect for those who do is mandatory).
Well, if you've made it this far, we should talk. So suck it up, and press that "message" button. Flirts should be delivered in person.
May you find what you are looking for.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I'd like to know what you're favorite restaurant is, and make a reservation at a mutually convenient time. What you order and how you enjoy your meal speaks volumes about the person you are. I must warn you that in the presence of well prepared, flavorful dishes I tend to concentrate on what I'm eating and may not do well on the "Standard 20 Questions Over a Meal". If we stray from what is expected in such situations and end up laughing uncontrollably over (?), so much the better. Hopefully on the dessert menu is something made with or of dark chocolate. If we end up fighting over the last bite, you're in.