I am a non-smoker, non-drinker in search of the same. I am divorced and would prefer to meet a single or divorced (not separated) man. I am unable to see who wants to "meet me" so please message me if my profile piques your interest. If I add you to my favorites, could you do the same in return to let me know you're interested.
Spirituality, (not to be confused with religion) is my foundation so finding someone like-minded with a high standard of moral values is imperative. I am not in a rush to jump into a relationship and I don't feel that it is worth settling just to avoid being alone. I have been described as a "watered down Hippie", (without the alcohol, sex, drugs, and rock and roll). I haven't had any issues with alcohol. I don't enjoy it so I chose to avoid it over a decade ago. I have no tattoos or piercings.
It appears that a lot of the men here have motorcycles, probably enough to warrant a site name change to "Plenty of Motorcycles." We don't need to have all of the same interests or enjoy the same activities but I feel that it is only fair to mention that I dislike sports, motorcycles, and dancing. I don't mind if someone has a motorcycle and goes on trips with their friends, but I won't be joining you. I am not a big fan of shopping but I enjoy a trip to Costco or a farmer's market.
I love yoga, particularly restorative, yin and hot yoga. I enjoy spiritual events (sweat lodges, drumming circles, sound healing, meditation or discussion groups, Reiki circles etc) or raw food events (workshops and potlucks etc). I like watching comedies, romantic comedies and documentaries. I generally prefer reading non-fiction but I also love Jane Austen's books and movies. Mr. Darcy where are you? Just kidding but bonus points if you understand the reference.
I love cooking and baking but I mainly eat raw plant based meals (uncooked fruit, vegetables, nuts, seeds). It isn't as boring as it sounds. Almost anything can be made in a raw version, including chocolate and desserts. It would be nice to meet someone who prefers healthy eating.
I am far from perfect and don't expect perfection from anyone. I have to admit that I find literacy, (the ability to spell, use correct grammar, punctuation and coherent sentences) to be an extremely attractive trait! It appears to be a lost art. I feel that the effort that someone puts in their profile is indicative of the effort that they will put into a relationship.
I am a mix of traditional and unconventional. I'm honest, genuine, and sincere, and consider lying, manipulation and head games, (other than Lumosity) pointless. I'm down-to-earth, easy-going, non-judgmental, low-maintenance, and non-materialistic. I prefer a drama free life. I'm a one-man woman and I am very old fashioned where dating is concerned. I am looking to start as friends first. I prefer courtship to casual dating and have a true appreciation for romance and chivalry. I have a great sense of humor and love to laugh and joke around. I treasure the simple things in life, the stuff that money can't buy. I'm interested in a person's inner qualities, not what they do for a living, their possessions, or the numbers in their bank account.
I'm very independent and self-reliant. I am "happily divorced," in parental retirement from active duty and enjoying grand-parenthood. As I have spent over half of my entire life as a parent, I would prefer to meet a man in the same life stage or without children.
I feel that communication is the key to an effective relationship. A relationship is not 50/50. It takes 100% effort from both parties. I'm looking for someone to learn and grow with and a relationship that brings out the best in both of us by providing mutual support and encouragement. Physical attraction is important, but not as important as the things that you can't see. I really appreciate a clean shaven, spiritually-focused man with a good sense of humor, a positive attitude, similar moral values, food preferences and some of my interests. We don't need to be identical. I believe that it is important to have separate interests and hobbies as well.
If you choose to favorite or message me, then please include a photo as I have for you. If I message you a compliment or greeting, please extend me the courtesy of a reply, even if there is no mutual interest. Say so and I won't think the less of you or myself. Thank you and I wish everyone the best. May you find the one you are looking for.
"The purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you, but to have another with whom you might share your completeness."~Neale Donald Walsch
"Every relationship you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.”~Deepak Chopra
"Love is a flower, you've got to let it grow"~John Lennon
"We come to love not by finding a perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly."~unknown
"At your absolute best, you still won't be good enough for the wrong person. At your worst, you still will be worth it to the right person."~unknown
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I understand and respect everyone's meeting preferences. I hope that you will understand and respect mine as well. I am looking for quality not quantity. I prefer to get to know people over time prior to meeting. That doesn't mean endless correspondence but it is a way to determine if a meeting is warranted. I enjoy meeting new people but I'm not into serial meetings so if you're looking for "chemistry" or "sparks" at a coffee/drink meeting, I'm not your best choice. In my opinion, "chemistry" or "sparks" are indicators of lust and I have not interest in "lust at first sight." True love isn't something that comes instantly. It builds over time beginning with friendship, trust, and respect. Physical attractions are common, but a mental connection is rare. I am in search of that rare mental connection.
I've found that coffee/drink meetings often resemble an interview/interrogation. Have you ever witnessed or accidentally overheard a coffee meeting/interrogation? I have and I'd prefer not to be on the other end of that situation! I find that an activity takes the pressure off of concentrating on the conversation. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, expensive, or time-consuming. It's a lot easier to get to know someone if you're doing something fun and active. It can be as simple as a walk. If it doesn't go well we can tell each other to take a hike. j/k