Ok, I'm adding this on because it needs to be understood. I work and I am busy. I will try to make time for you. But, if you are never available, whats the point? I know some of you believe that men are supposed to ask women out on a date and make plans etc. But, if you reject or alter every plan we make, then whats the point? So, here's the idea. I will not ask you for a date or to go out, unless the opportunity arises. I will work with you to find a time for us to meet. But, if we can never get a chance to meet because you wont make time, then theres nothing I can do. I will still talk to you and get to know you, but I'm done trying to meet you. I'm not wasting time and effort. There are "other fish in the sea". If you cancel a date, I forgive you. But, if it keeps happening we're done. Please tell me if theres a problem, so I can fix it, or explain it. I will not play games. If you don't answer messages, I'll just wait for you to answer. I might send one later on someday, but I'm not playing the "Chase Me" game. We are adults and we are tired of being alone. Games will never solve that problem. If you have someone you are regularly talking to, go talk to that guy. I'm not a clinger, but I'm tired of talking to people for a week or two and bang they are gone. No explanation. If I haven't messaged you, check to see if you answered my last message. Finally, if you are the sort of person who believes and follows gossip, or lets the opinions of others control your actions, then just dont bother me. If you cannot get to know someone and decide whether they are a good person on your own without asking for the opinions of others, then you're not someone I'm interested in. Wise council is one thing, but being easily swayed and fearful is another. We all have enemies, and enemies love to spread lies, or interesting half truths.
I was told by some different ladies that my profile is long, and makes me seem deep and complicated....... So I wanted to provide a shorter version of my profile, for those ladies. Here it is........... I have written it in caveman speak. "Me Chris. Me like yum yum." That's the short version of my profile. If you want more info. please read on.
Ok. Here's some advice. Most of us on here are divorced. My suggestion to the ladies is to stop worrying about finding a man. Focus on God, Focus on Spiritual things, focus on your kids, focus on your career, Get to know yourself again. You lost yourself in your marriage. You made your kids hobbies, and you ex's hobbies your hobbies. Do you really like those things you say you like? You're FREE!! Go do some thing you've always wanted to do. Get to know your self again. Focus on healing. Focus on living healthy, eat right, exercise, relax, breathe. I'm not saying that you shouldn't date, or meet new people, but don't make it your focus. Don't stress and worry about being alone. That will just make you pick up a loser. Have fun.
From looking at the profiles of different women on here, I would like to get some things clear right off the bat. First, I don't live in mom's basement. lol! I have my own apartment, job, car, license, and my pics are real. They are fairly recent.
I like to go and do things. I'm interested in meeting a person who would like to go with me. It gets old going alone.
I like simplicity.
I enjoy laughing and making others laugh.
I'm interested in meeting fairly soon. I've learned that if people don't meet on here within a short period of time, they never will. Not being pushy, but practical. I don't mind chatting and messaging for a nice period of time. But, there comes a time when you gotta put on your big girl panties and take the plunge! lol!
I could put down what kind of movies I like and music, but then we would have nothing to message each other about, for the first few times.
I like to go to the woods and hike. I like the outdoors.
I'm honest and practical. I want to be myself. It makes no sense to meet a person and pretend to be someone I'm not.
I'm not a drunk. If you like to have a few drinks on occasion, I'll drive. I want one woman. I'm not interested in keeping you on a leash while I try and get other women. It's not worth it. I want you to trust me and will behave in a trust worthy manner. I would like the same. Respect.
I want to love you. I don't want to give my heart to you and discover it was a mistake. I don't want you to do that either. I believe in treating people the way I want to be treated. I do not want to hurt anyone, or be hurt.
It's no fun being with someone you always fight with.
None of us want to be alone. So, if you read this profile, you could tell me what I could do to make it better, and I'll return the favor. Even if you're not interested in dating.
Here's some advice. Are you tired of getting played? Tricked? Misled? Look at the title of the website. Plenty of FISH! If you want to catch a fish you need the best bait. So, if that person you are talking to is perfect. If he seems to be THE ONE. Perhaps you are being baited? Players are perfect because they are polished. They have used the same tricks on dozens of women and have perfected their game. Honesty is not perfect. Humans have flaws. Players look good and know how to treat a lady.....well enough for a few dates. Get it? They also carry disease. Just because they get herpes or some other disease doesn't change their heart. They still only want one thing. Perhaps the good ONE, is the one who you turned away because of some slight blemish. He doesn't have the best answers because it's not a lie. He can't think of the best things to say because he's not trying to trick you. Anyway, just something that was on my heart this morning.
I want a relationship with someone who wants me around. Who wants to spend time with me. Not someone who pencils me in to her schedule. I know life is busy, but it doesn't have to be busy alone. I want someone who smiles and says "I was hoping you'd come by today" if I show up at her door unexpectedly, wanting to be with her. I know this takes time. But, I'm not interested in being sectioned off in a corner until my chain is pulled. I won't sit waiting. I will go find something else to do. I would rather do it with the person, I'm involved with. But, if she is never available. I won't be punished by sitting home alone, i've done that for too long now.
POF will not let me update my profile without answering their questions. So, some of my answer above are just garbage. Like ambition. Hey, I am really ambitious when I'm getting a free steak, not so much when I'm cleaning the toilet. It's a dumb question. No one is totally ambitious all the time.
We would meet, then go out to eat, then decide what to do next. It sounds boring. But, it's a first date. We are meeting each other to decide if we want a second date. :) lol.
Note: If you tell me to make all the decisions about our date, then please don't reject every decision I make.
I like to meet in Wal-Mart parking lots. It's a good location. It's public, there are cameras, and if the person is not who they claim to be, or if there is a problem, we are in our cars and can just drive off. No problem. Plus we can leave a car there if needed without it getting towed or broken in to. Also, there is no problem, if the person doesn't show up. Just go inside, and buy some ice cream and a movie. lol. The cameras are good because there is a record of when both cars entered the lot, what occurred while on the lot, what car was used, and what time they returned. When we meet, we just talk for a minute or two, see how things are, then decide what to do or where to go next. Plus Wal-Mart's are very easy to find.