I was told by some different ladies that my profile is long, and makes me seem deep and complicated....... So I wanted to provide a shorter version of my profile, for those ladies. Here it is........... I have written it in caveman speak. "Me Chris. Me like yum yum." That's the short version of my profile. If you want more info. please read on.
Ok. Here's some advice. Most of us on here are divorced. My suggestion to the ladies is to stop worrying about finding a man. Focus on God, Focus on Spiritual things, focus on your kids, focus on your career, Get to know yourself again. You lost yourself in your marriage. You made your kids hobbies, and you ex's hobbies your hobbies. Do you really like those things you say you like? You're FREE!! Go do some thing you've always wanted to do. Get to know your self again. Focus on healing. Focus on living healthy, eat right, exercise, relax, breathe. I'm not saying that you shouldn't date, or meet new people, but don't make it your focus. Don't stress and worry about being alone. That will just make you pick up a loser. Have fun.
From looking at the profiles of different women on here, I would like to get some things clear right off the bat. First, I don't live in mom's basement. lol! I have my own apartment, job, car, license, and my pics are real. They are fairly recent.
I like to go and do things. I'm interested in meeting a person who would like to go with me. It gets old going alone.
I know that many of you like to do the telephone thing. I'm not a big phone fan. It's not that I'm creepy or hiding or have a squeaky voice, it's just that I don't like to give my number out until I know the person. You should consider this as well. Because let's be honest, if I meet you and don't like you, why would I want you to have my number? You might call me an harass me for a second date. lol. I like peace in my life. Not drama. Not games. It doesn't go well.
I like simplicity.
I enjoy laughing and making others laugh.
I'm interested in meeting fairly soon. I've learned that if people don't meet on here within a short period of time, they never will. Not being pushy, but practical. I don't mind chatting and messaging for a nice period of time. But, there comes a time when you gotta put on your big girl panties and take the plunge! lol!
I could put down what kind of movies I like and music, but then we would have nothing to message each other about, for the first few times.
I like to go to the woods and hike. I like the outdoors. I don't hunt, but I do fish sometimes. You can let fish go. Which is what I like to do, unless I'm hungry for fish. I don't hunt because I don't need the meat and I'm not interested in trophies etc.
I'm honest and practical. I want to be myself. It makes no sense to meet a person and pretend to be someone I'm not.
I'm not a drunk. If you like to have a few drinks on occasion, I'll drive. I want one woman. I'm not interested in keeping you on a leash while I try and get other women. It's not worth it. I want you to trust me and will behave in a trust worthy manner. I would like the same. Respect.
I want to love you. I don't want to give my heart to you and discover it was a mistake. I don't want you to do that either. I believe in treating people the way I want to be treated. I do not want to hurt anyone, or be hurt.
It's no fun being with someone you always fight with.
None of us want to be alone. So, if you read this profile, you could tell me what I could do to make it better, and I'll return the favor. Even if you're not interested in dating.
Here's some advice. Are you tired of getting played? Tricked? Misled? Look at the title of the website. Plenty of FISH! If you want to catch a fish you need the best bait. So, if that person you are talking to is perfect. If he seems to be THE ONE. Perhaps you are being baited? Players are perfect because they are polished. They have used the same tricks on dozens of women and have perfected their game. Honesty is not perfect. Humans have flaws. Players look good and know how to treat a lady.....well enough for a few dates. Get it? They also carry disease. Just because they get herpes or some other disease doesn't change their heart. They still only want one thing. Perhaps the good ONE, is the one who you turned away because of some slight blemish. He doesn't have the best answers because it's not a lie. He can't think of the best things to say because he's not trying to trick you. Anyway, just something that was on my heart this morning.
I want a relationship with someone who wants me around. Who wants to spend time with me. Not someone who pencils me in to her schedule. I know life is busy, but it doesn't have to be busy alone. I want someone who smiles and says "I was hoping you'd come by today" if I show up at her door unexpectedly, wanting to be with her. I know this takes time. But, I'm not interested in being sectioned off in a corner until my chain is pulled. I won't sit waiting. I will go find something else to do. I would rather do it with the person, I'm involved with. But, if she is never available. I won't be punished by sitting home alone, i've done that for too long now.
Ok, I want a relationship. I message many people, and have met some. Often times I look at a profile and see something I like and I send a message. It's very possible that I have messaged you and a friend. It happens. I don't know you are friends. I have no clue that you know each other. I just see a trait, or something I'm attracted to. Perhaps that's why you're friends, because you are similar. I apologize. I'm alone. I want someone in my life. I'm not going to message a person, then wait a week for an answer, then move to the next person, and wait, then on to the next one who doesn't answer. Just because you meet someone one time, or have messaged for a week does not mean you are picking out wedding invitations. I'm not trying to seem cruel. But, this internet dating is about contacti
We would meet, then go out to eat, then decide what to do next. It sounds boring. But, it's a first date. We are meeting each other to decide if we want a second date. :) lol.
Note: If you tell me to make all the decisions about our date, then please don't reject every decision I make.
I like to meet in Wal-Mart parking lots. It's a good location. It's public, there are cameras, and if the person is not who they claim to be, or if there is a problem, we are in our cars and can just drive off. No problem. Plus we can leave a car there if needed without it getting towed or broken in to. Also, there is no problem, if the person doesn't show up. Just go inside, and buy some ice cream and a movie. lol. The cameras are good because there is a record of when both cars entered the lot, what occurred while on the lot, what car was used, and what time they returned. When we meet, we just talk for a minute or two, see how things are, then decide what to do or where to go next. Plus Wal-Mart's are very easy to find.