why that headline?, because i think it is THE single-most confusing term in the dating world. not only for being subjective but also for being over-used and under-utilized at the same time. i mean really.....you're in your mid 40's and just now realizing you want someone that treats you good?, ladies, what's the deal? yeah, i know......rhetorical question.
im gonna warn ya way ahead of time, i just plain suck at the blind, introductory small talk. it just feels awkward and i really dont know what is and isnt appropriate with someone. please, set the ground rules early and i can play within their boundaries.
i really dont know what to put down here. not sure if it does any good when i do. what i do know is that i want to start out as friends and go from there. how pof associates friends and casual dating with not wanting any relationship at all i have no idea. i guess you get better selection options when you upgrade.
my type or taste of a woman?....that's a loaded question. i like a burb girl with a country heart. independent but also loyal. likes the convenience of the nearness of the city but can do equally well and enjoy the barebones getaways in a tent or a less refined instance.. body size, i prefer a proportional build between size 8 and size 14....think 50's pin-up. activities would be the point of commonality between us as well as a little interesting diversity. her favorite color would be mossy oak or realtree.
my life is pretty simple. i work hard and i sleep. i take one day to get to the archery range to enjoy my hobby and clear my head. you could call it boring but i dont have anyone to enjoy activities or share company with. i call it a 'low drama' lifestyle.
i'm a workaholic by default. i work 3rd shift and really enjoy it. by trade, I'm an industrial mechanic for an injection molding company. i work around equipment hot enough to cook with and strong enough to crush your car. i get contact burned about once a week on the backside of my forearms. If you cant handle some character marks.......sorry, cant help ya.
my days off are from saturday afternoon to monday afternoon.....unless they throw a saturday in there from time to time. a homebody when not pursuing a hobby.
after giving this some thought, i have to say that my intentions from this site are going to be more for the friend aspect and what some will consider a lengthy period of correspondence. i'm working a lot of overtime and saturdays. my 3rd shift hours just by themselves make the social life a little more difficult. the extra hours cant make things any easier. my only marriage suffered the same fate while i was in the navy. long hours, periods away from home and lost weekends. it is not fair to a significant or potential significant other to ask they make the sacrifice of time unless they know explicitly ahead of time. i know this wont break anyone's heart but it is what it is, and it's an honest reason.
To say that i am selective would be an understatement. I know what i want and what i like for a companion in her likes and dislikes as well as her choice in activities and sports. I also understand that there will be a degree of diversity in our likes and chosen activities. The trick is to find that common ground for both shared participation and support.
i tend to be the quiet one. not the most comfortable in new places with new people. chances are i wont make first contact. i'm slow to warm and slower to develop trust........long story why. i'm a better listener than talker which makes me a good shoulder.
it would be best if you at least read the 10 myths of an introvert. it explains quite a bit about me and who i am.
Point blank and dead honest......my confidence is shot thanks to this site. i find a certain degree of irony here. i read women's profiles that say they're tired of finding nothing but chuckleheads while i sit and wonder what exactly is so wrong with me that has condemned me to solitude......then i smile because i realize how little drama my boring life has. because of this, i do a lot of 'window shopping'
Open to suggestions besides 'go away kid, ya bother me'.
All kidding aside, bring your appetite because Brasa Grill sounds quite appealing to me. my only nights off are occasionally Saturday and Sunday and no, it wont be a dutch date.
No dancing....to say I'm a horrible dancer would be a HUGE compliment. karaoke.....oh geez, i dance better than i sing.
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