i honestly dont know what to write here that would separate me from the rest of the guys you look at. i dont have the flashy car, the stylish clothes, the fat wallet or the 6 figure job. i'm not tall, dark or handsome. i'm just me.
i'm not trying to be cliche` when i say i've had some not-so-good moments/relationships i tried to make work and took the emotional beating of it. i'm slow to warm and careful with what i let out as far as what makes me, 'me', yes, you can say i am guarded. In new people/new social situations, i am a fairly passive and protected person. It takes me a while to find my comfort zone and place amongst the diversity of the crowd.
with that being said, it takes an enormous amount of personal courage for me to break the blind ice with a stranger. yeah, the webernet allows a certain degree of anonymity but it still takes some. work stuff and personal reliability things.....nothing can stop me. socializing....ehh, well, er, ummm, not so good.
i do this a lot....thinking out loud and asking stupid questions and here is one.....how is "hi, how are you today/tonight/this morning?" offensive? is it one of those secret girl things guys arent supposed to know about like rocking your foot when your legs are crossed when wearing jeans or pants?
i've been on pof for a while. You could say it's from a little of me and a little of pof's fault. i am selective, maybe more-so than i should be, but i have learned to go with gut instinct. i've been divorced since 98. i am neither desperate nor am i in any hurry. i will not compromise my principles just to have 'a person in my life'. i want that one person that completes my sentences, says 'yeah, lets try/do that'. goofy, yet grounded and with an inner direction and inner peace.
My username...yeah, i know it's a little 'different', but so am i. im an individual. i think like one, i act like one. All those 'be that guy' memes are my inspirational posters.
i'm a blue collar, career navy vet with an over-developed sense of commitment and mission completion.
i mind my own business and avoid drama like the plague. i am not the most important person to me. i will not endlessly message you if you dont respond. i have a thing about respecting a person's choices and space. i will not stay where i am not welcomed.
my only son is grown, gone and doing well for himself. i could not be prouder of him. we are more best of friends than father and son most times.
in all honesty, i am fairly vanilla. i work hard and long hours. i sleep. take a few hours a week to try and pursue a hobby or two....lately, it's not been easy to find the time.
there's a ton of selective adjectives one can use to describe one's self but i just dont feel right and it really isnt my place to say. if there is something you would like to know, just ask. i dont like talking about myself for the sake of hearing myself talk. By contrast, hit on the right topic and i will talk your ear off.
would i like a relationship?, sure. the catch is that i want one that develops from a deep friendship rather than my 'main goal' is marriage. perfect girl?, a tomboy that cleans up nicely.
good luck in your search and thanks for taking the time to read this.
All kidding aside, bring your appetite because Brasa Grill sounds quite appealing to me. my only nights off are occasionally Saturday and Sunday and no, it wont be a dutch date.
No dancing....to say I'm a horrible dancer would be a HUGE compliment. karaoke.....oh geez, i dance better than i sing.