Warning: I'm kind of bored at work at the moment, so I think I'll blab away at this description for a while.
Also, I just procured a new place in downtown Detroit right by Comerica Park/Ford Field, so I'm definitely looking for people to share in future downtown adventures with me now that I'm an urbanite.
Talking to women that have been on dating sites/reading other people's profiles - I'm amazed and flabbergasted at how other people approach meeting people online and otherwise. I'm constantly confused by "what other guys" do when I hear about this and other sites (or dating in general) from the female perspective, and am quite confused when I look at people's profiles and their robotic "house buying" approach to meeting dynamic living, breathing human beings.
My basic philosophy is that, as long as said individual is an actual interesting, open, and free person, every new person you meet will add something worthwhile to your life. Therefore seeing people that are exclusionary on dating sites, especially when it comes to things that say absolutely nothing about a person like race, specific heights, or small age differences is kind of saddening. It is normally linked with a default correlation; people like that are generally extremely self limiting and don't really experience life. They block out the opportunity to actually LIVE because they enclose themselves in a bubble of expectations crafted by the people that they grew up with. In other words, they're normally boring people that live limited lives that offer no new interesting perspectives to add to your own, and it's all self-inflicted. Just to be clear: this doesn't include whittling off people in a broad sense due to things like children and other things that would have an actual effect on a lifestyle - this is strictly referring to set, pre-existing specifics of physical attributes a man or woman "must-have" as if they're picking out a car that shows a completely lack of open thinking in general.
And don't even get me started on how dull, crazy, and jealous some men are, or how they approach women on these sites as pure objects or mass send canned intros and pickups.
In conjunction with all of this, my approach on sites like these is; if I read your profile/look at your pics and think you might be interesting, I may toss you an email if I happen to be on my computer as opposed to the phone when viewing. I'm here to meet new and interesting people as opposed to email back and forth for infinity, and put no special import on such meetings outside of an attempt to perhaps add to my life with fun conversations, new perspectives, and shared experiences. And, if during that, I think the person is cute and find a romantic connection, perhaps I can approach things from a dating sense from there. It's pretty much that simple for me.
As for myself, I am a proponent of not "wasting" my life by experiencing every aspect of it that I possibly can. While I currently work as a senior creative for a media/marketing company in the area (think Mad Men), I also am involved in all of the arts, music production, extra-ing in TV and film, writing, and have created a few video games that you can download on X-Box Live or online. For fun, I do everything I can come up with - I went to around 7 music festivals and 20 concerts this year (as well as events like San Diego Comic-con), am constantly watching all types of film, am planning on spending a chunk of time next year traveling (New Zealand is the first place on my list, currently), and still continuing to explore the Detroit area while I'm at it. I'm definitely looking for people to share in those types of experiences with me.
One more thing, I'm in Rochester now, but I'm currently researching renting a loft or apartment in downtown Detroit for a Dec or Jan move. I want to try city-living for a bit.
Well, thanks for reading this long bible I wrote, and I hope to hear from you!